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May I ask something ?
Why are there so few players who are polite ? I always say hello, just that (the minimum, I think). I receive an answer from about 10% of the players... Some disable chat, without saying anything ! I blacklist them, but I don't understand......
Can you explain me ? Thank you !
I am a very polite person, but have disabled my chat for all live games because I've had too many opponents who either use it to badger me for a draw when they are losing or to be rude. Unfortunately that means that I can't thank people for a good game, etc. Maybe Chess.com will come up with a better way to flag poor sports.
HourraPapa, I understand that manners and politeness are of high importance to you when you interact with others and that when your politeness is not reciprocated you do get offended.What you may fail to realise, is that during bullet games of chess the time to engage in politeness isn't always available, or utilised in a more appeasing manner to your sentiments relating to your passionate desire to have your politeness reciprocated in kind.
What I would suggest, is making more real friends, in the real world.However, you could play longer games so that you can engage in the desired level of politeness you think is appropriate and acceptable to your needs.
Sorry to say it, but you appear to be quite rude yourself: first, politeness standards depend on the context, and, as far as my experience goes, on this site it is not common for people to type in "hullo" each time a game starts; when I played with you, you probably did say "hullo", but I didn't notice; however, when I realized your standards where higher than the average standard, I invited you to a chat in order to smoothen things out. However, you declined and THAT was definitely unpolite, if not arrogant. Secondly, you won the game and I think it's EXTREMELY rude and unpolite not to allow a rematch. It looks very much like you are talking the talk...
Ok, Nimzoroy, thank you for the answer.
Sure I am here for playing, not for chatting. But politeness... Just one word, or two, I don't ask something so difficult, I guess...........
And you are entirely right, Crookedmiles. Internet gives the possibility to be a poor guy, without any social sanction... My opinion about mankind (myself included sure) is worst, day after day...
Are you talking about live chess and/or turn-based chess? Almost all my experience here is with turn-based chess and few players say hello and many don't respond to my hello. OK some people don't read english and others may never look at chat, but overall I guess many members are here to play chess and not chat at all.
BTW I think your question would have been more appropriate in a forum such as "general chess discussion" you'd probably get more replies in a forum next time.
I agree with you in general. However, I do think the type of game makes a big difference. For example, a 1 minute or 2min+1 game is so fast, that most people just bounce from game to game to maximiaze the number of games played and there really isn't much time for the niceties. A "GG" at the end is about all most players will usually say, if the game really was well fought. That said, the slower games should command a much higher degree of civility and politeness - no excuse not to.
What kills me is the many players who intentionally walk away from a game in a clearly lost position with alot of time left on the clock. I block them (after the time wasted to close out the game), but there seems to be no end to them. Classic sore loser, poor sportmanship.
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by HourraPapa 13 months ago
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