In the image, Nigel Short is being refused a handshake by Ivan Cheparinov at the Corus 2009 Tournament in the B Group. A breach of "etiquette".
I would suggest that there are other breaches of etiquette. The one I am talking about specifically is winning and requesting an opportunity to beat them again.
I would suggest that if you win against someone, you do not request a rematch from them. Instead, if you win, be respectful and allow them the chance to request a rematch.
I would continue this line of reasoning to say that to ignore that the person you beat might be distraught about losing is self-centered. It does not hurt you to press the "New Game" button but pressing the "Rematch" button in the face of someone you just beat may be digging in a wound.
When you blow off their possible reaction to losing by insisting that it must match your view is the definition of self-centered. People who ignore the thoughts and feelings of others and act only on their own is, again, the definition of self-centered.
another member challenged me (I am 1478 OTB USCF compared to his 2248 USCF) to a fast time control (unrated). He promptly beat me and then immediately asked for a rematch. I asked him, "Is there any reason you are trying to be rude to me?" There follows a series of Notes where he explains that I "should be" grateful that he offered to play me.
He said, "I see that you're upset though I don't relate to what you're felling. I'm usually very happy when I get challenges from GM Joey and the FIDE Masters that play here. I realize I'm a clear underdog to win, but It is a nice opportunity to play them all the same. I will try to remember not to challenge you as you don't like to play up. No problem! Be well!"
If he wants to be so honorable to beat up on patzers like me, just leave his "Accept Challenges" open. I believe there will be plenty of patzers interested in getting smashed. But I did not seek him out. He sought me out. Then pursued beating me in a series. What the heck is the motivation in that? Oh...I should be grateful though.
I like martial arts too. I guess I should be grateful if Chuck Norris comes up and says, "Hey man. You want to spar?" After he promptly lays me out. He leans over me and asks, "You want to go again?" Yeah man. Thanks for the whoopin'. I grateful that you found me!
The first game. I was interested in the game with a titled player. When he immediately sought a rematch after smashing me, I was not as interested in playing him as I was in why he was seeking me out for the beatings. It felt rude.
I see on his Notes on his page, he has plenty of fans adoring his rating and ability to be "nice" from on high. I'm not impressed. He's obviously a good player...I felt that. Still not impressed with him.
Just my opinion.