I hope you're not an anomaly!

"Further you have to adopt to the person needs."

It's a good philosophy in itself, but keep in mind it can be taken too far -- with this logic applied to women's titles: "If women are struggling in chess as a whole let's give them more praise than the guys." I think this kind of mentality discourages hard work and accomplishment. If you force women to do the same in chess as men then they will learn to take on challenges without asking for help.

"You really seem a guy to me with to many broken and not working relationships."

lol, you really think you can tell something about me based on what I write about an unrelated topic? Please, there is no place here for that last paragraph.

I agree with most of this post :).

Also to clarrify I don't think that the man has to carry everything. If there are three things, I'm happy to carry one, it would be insane to let him carry all three things. I just think that the man when he is stronger should offer help when heavy things are carried. Like I said earlier the same for old people and children. Do you offer help as an adult when you see a child of 8 carry something heavy and he/she cleary has difficulty with it? What if the person is 90? I certainly hope so, why is it then for some man suddenly a problem when the person is a woman?

Well, I didn't call any stereotype this or that other than to agree they're both wrong.

What I find a bit irritating is it seems you go over the top to make your point.

Yes, discrimination against a man or women is wrong. The fact that injustice towards women in the past and in present day does exist does not in any way take away from your argument that it is also wrong to treat men this way.

Because, Monoceros, when the child is 8, the message is "he is weaker than you, so you should help him"; when the adult is a woman, the message is "she is better than you, so you should serve her."

Hilarious!

Because he wants to feel loved and respected too :)  If he doesn't carry them, tell him how you feel not what you expect of him.  If he respects your feelings then you'll have a good relationship. 

If he had a problem with helping you out hopefully he'd know enough about himself to say he just wants to be respected too and maybe past women have made him feel like a pack-mule (or something heh) and then you can respect that about him etc etc

If either of you are a jerk because you don't respect your partner, then the relationship ends (hopefully) sooner or later.

That I don't understand. Why would a woman be better than a man?

I can't believe that most woman think that. Offcourse there will always be persons who think they are better than others, but they are from both genders. You have woman who think they are better than man, man who think they are better than woman and even people who think that they are better than everyone. That has nothing to do with gender.

True enough. Don't worry I don't tell them that they have to carry it. What I did tell someone was that I simply could not walk that fast, that my feet hurt after walking so long (I had blisters and everything) and that I felt that they didn't care about me as I walked meters behind them the whole day and they didn't bother to slow down. They came to the conclusion that I moaned too much and just should buy better shoes (aka sporting shoes, which is ridiculous if you expect a relaxing day out) as they claim they cant adapt their speed to mine as there legs are too long  That kinda ended the friendship (combined with similar incidents). As a 1.62 = 5.3 feet I do not want to be treated as the same was as a 1.90 = 6.3 feet person. I can't adapt to their speed, I simply can't, they however have to slow down to my speed or I will not be able to enjoy the day and the friendship will slowly stop.

Heh, girl or guy, if I had a friend who woudln't even bother to walk with me and when I asked them to they said I complained too much I'd probably stop being their friend too

That milk should be spilled, trysts.

True enough .

As for chess I'm not sure what to think about it yet.  I do think there should be things done to stimulate woman for playing chess. It's still seen too much as a man sport and people will look weird at you if you play chess as a woman. However I also do think that the different treatment is a bit weird. The woman titles are so much easier and woman only tourneys are a bit weird. I think it would be far better to find some other way to increase the amount of woman who play chess, but I can't think of a good way myself.

For myself I play otb since september and  all rated games that I played (15 orso) were against males.

Boy you type fast, TB!

What's really funny about that is I only use two fingers to do so.  I'd be really at home on a typewriter.

How sensitive of you Trysts, I'm sure ciljettu will respect your opinion.

Or you two will hate each other lol... not sure which

I think that it is wise to have seperate Championship for women...Because although I have always believed (and still do) that women are better thinkers than we are as men when it comes to emotional affairs, and Chess is at all times very emotional and dramaitic and very very fun(at times)...I have to be very careful when speaking about women, but, I will say that all of my life I have noticed that women have always had their own sporting activities, such as; track&field, basketball,boxing,etc..., So, why not chess? It makes sense to me...

Violin was mean to say she's playing a sad song, mocking your post.  The baby pictures were to call you whiny/childish.