And, one never really knows if the opponent online is human or a programmed opponent, so don't forget to play on the table at home with good chess buddies.  . . . . . Chess should retain its organic-social origins.

At lower levels (my ratings 1450 and below) people dont' like it, because they play e4 games as white , or against it as black, 99% of the time. I've been nearly undefeated pushing my way up from 1250 to 1400+ by learning a lot of d4 theory, including all of it variations (for instance I just studied the delayed Dutch defense from black to defend against d4).

So they get mad, because they dont' understand it, and it destroys every plan they had in mind from all their e4 games.

A similiar thing happened in bullet chess. I was playing 1 minute and 3 minute chess. I kept taking an extreme butt kicking, mainly because they all prepare their traps far ahead of time. After a while I played a hedgehog defense +1 tempo as white and just let them run out of time suiciding me. As black I played double fiancetto and put my knights on the Queen side with a French hybrid then queen side castled. The moment I queen side castled they resigned, simply because all of their normal plans went to waste and they wouldn't have enough time to win.

Ever since I stopped playing speed chess, since these heavy defensive strategies will let you win on time, although this probably IIS NOT the case in HIGH LEVEL speed chess, I find that I'm not learning anything at my current level of play, and am better off playing 15/30 minute games and developing more opening theory (studying the Reti opening to King's Indian or English transition at the moment).

It is a weak reply, maybe you want the Benko gambit instead? 

whenever i annotate games i mark anything other than d4 as a blunder for white

+1

I dont know why people hate on the London so much, I find my london games just as interesting as the Benko, Jaenisch, tromp or hopton games I play.
Its always interesting to see the small accumulation of mistakes black ususally makes transfer into an advantage for white, and often black has no idea why they gte bad positions.

People who make statements like 'd4 is positional, e4 is tactical' or 'd4 is passive, e4 is aggressive' are probably the same people whose entire understanding of chess revolves around trying to mate on the f2/f7 square in the first few moves of the game.

Kind of repeating what has been said but there are many extremely tactical variations that can occur afterr d4 and many very quiet lines that can occur after e4.  Think the Botvinnik system in the semi-slav or the Giuoco Pianissimo.  Actually I think the most significant difference between the two moves is that the various openings that can occur after d4 are often much more similar than the different variations that occur after e4.  So by playing d4 you can kind of anticipate the structures that will arise, whereas black's choice of opening after e4 can lead into very different types of games.

I feel the same, I like to play againist d4-c4 but playing against the Colle or the London is just too boring. Especially the Colle tends to give black zero counterplay.

i personally hate when my opponet plays d4 since i don't get to play the sicilian which i like playing when my opponet plays d4 i have to play a more passive opening like the nimzo

You still haven't responded to my line, where black is practically winning.

There is a common fallacy, whereby someone playing black believes that if white plays some inferior moves that black should have a forced win.  Most of the time this is not the case.  The Parham is not exactly refutable, however with correct play black should get at least equality and probably a small advantage, but there is no way that black is 'winning' out of the opening.  I would say that it is playable, if not exactly good, at amateur level.

In both the parham refutation thread and the 1. e4 e5 2. Qh5 thread.

I myself prefer 1.d4...but I have been hearing about this "Parham Opening" so much lately, I will need to look see.

why is nf3 not agressive you are already putting a peice out on the first move? also its very flexible as well