I recently lost a game to a player, during which near the end, when it was obvious, I was told, not asked to resign. I didn't, and lost which was expected.

This was a tournament, so in the next game against this person, within the first few moves, he told me to resign this game. Any thoughts?

so you want me to rage? your just asking for trouble, aren't you?

Go to the game in your archive, and click "report abuse" at the bottom of the page. It is exremely rude to demand you lose.

Some people are just rude.

That's just plain rude. If I were you I wouldn't even dignify that with a response other than a sound whoopin' and wiping the board with him.

Agreed. Definitely do not take that from anybody- nobody how obvious or not it is that you will lose. As for the second game, my only guess is that he or she was just really desparate to advance in the tournament (?) I don't know

alternately, just turn off the chat and ignore him and keep on playing (and annoying) him.

Well it would be nice if people would resign when they have lost instead of continuing to play dragging out these tournaments that have ruined chess.com forever.

Stop emphathizing with these losers.

no hablo ingles y no se que es lo que pasa, se puede traducir la pagina de alguna manera? cual es el problema que tiene redlite, le entendi que solamente quiere jugar ajedrez, el me va entender el castellano? que yo estoy escribiendo o solamente se piensan que todos hablamos ingles?

 Telling others to resign = abuse?  That's a joke right?

silvio64---I only speak a little spanish, very little. To translate your post, I used 'babel fish' by yahoo. Because this site is made by an american, we speak english. We do not mean to offend others, but we speak english as the common language. I hope that I answered your questions correctly, if I did not, please post again, and I will try again.

http://babelfish.yahoo.com/?fr=bf-res

that guy is really rude. but did you or did you not resign to the next game? i just want to know if you don't mind...

Good point earlier, turn off the chat. That would be funny. Like slamming a door.

I didn't resign the first game. He told me to resign two moves to mate. I'm shocked he would tell me to resign instead of getting the thrill of mate. As for the second game, I wasn't even down a piece when he told me to resign.

The disable chat option suggested above sounds like a reasonable way to proceed.

The guy in question is a 15 year old who probably has very little idea about correct etiquette, so point him in the right direction, disable chat and make sure that you take your time over your moves as it looks to me as though you are flustered in your second game and making some slips that perhaps you wouldn't otherwise.

Don't take any flak from people like that - it is ridiculously rude to even suggest your opponent to resign.

Tune them out, disable the chat option. And if it is a reoccurring problem, contact Erik to handle the situation.

I never tolerated that kind of disrespectful behavior in my chess club... Not only does it show a severe degree of impatience and lack of decent chess etiquette, but it also displays a clear lack of decent social skills in general (lack  of respect for others).

But the real problem with such behavior is that it can really be intimidating, especially to younger, less experienced players (I'm saying this because I use to run a children's chess club). It can demoralize a person to the point at which they really feel that they cannot win and simply give up.

One could certainly make the argument that repeatedly telling a person that they are going to lose and should resign can be construed as a form of chess bullying.

I was asked to resign once when down a rook.  I refused, and didn't listen to the repeated pleas for me to "come to my senses".  I ended up winning that game:

http://www.chess.com/echess/game.html?id=6932166

I still consider it very bad luck to ask your opponent to resign.  They will pull out all the stops at that point.

Not a generalisation at all, rather a comment specifically about this 15 year old, who has shown through his actions that he has little idea about correct etiquette.

There are lots and lots of 15 year old who probably know a lot more than me about correct etiquette, just not this one :-)