why high rated players wont play u , abandon the game or just use u as a back support if they cant find a partner? 3 players today quitted on me just as we started, and they answered MY challenge. And as they quit they went and post a seek of their own. It makes me feel real low.Anyone with the same experience, Any ideas? How to react to it?

Well, higher-rated players would tend to want to play others around, or over, their own level. If, however, there is nobody like that available, they will play those weaker. (Just my thoughts, I may be wrong.)

If you are talking about live chess then they accidentally clicked on your open seek but really wanted another with a more closely matched player.

then i read a main board and see that many players unhumbly claim themself to be ingenious players, judging others by the numbers.

don't feel bad.  They just don't want to lose points.  A high rated player can lose up to a hundred or so points if they lose to you or get disconnected.  So for them it's not worth the risk.  Don't take it personal.

 

G~

thanks, Gwyllem

Are you talking about live chess or online chess?

I need to know before answering you.

1. live chess, paul211

Quite often it is that the seeks do move quickly and you end up hitting the wrong one...I think that is the reason for the majority of the aborted games.

If it really annoys you, just keep taking up there seek until they put one up that doesn't include your rating or they play you.... 

Still, players should be careful of where they click since having to quit wastes everyone's time. I've never clicked the wrong seek before.

They don't do it on purpose, the seeks can move pretty darn quickly at times!

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zetamarina
Union City, United States

Rating: 1249
Last Game: Jun 10, 2009
Member Since: Apr 18, 2009

 

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They just doesn't deserve to play you! Never mind!

Greg

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You seem sincere so I am not trying to offend you but only to answer your well posed questions with some sincerity as well, though the answers may not make anyone "feel good" about themselves or the reality of the issue.

 

Playing people that are much better or much worse is not fun.  It is tedious.

Winning too easily, or being forced to play out a clearly winning position against someone 800 points slower is not exciting, not much to be learned and is only dome as a labot of love.  Chess players have personal agendas and very rarely wish to sacrfice their own goals in order to assist others.

Some players are not like this.  You will find some people that regardless of rating will play and be both entertained and entertaining and they look forward to helping others learn.  But, do not expect this to be the norm, lest you will once again meet disappointmemt.

 

What can be done?  Well, in chess a lot of it is about individuals doing work in isolation to get better.  It is not a very social game.  Really it is not.  The people that are really, really good have spent a lot of time in isolation with a board, some pieces and some resources to study.  There is no shortcut to this process and anyone that claims there is is lying. 

So, one can always get better and this place give opportunities that did not exist when I was in your position.    As I bright and enterprising person with charisma, I am sure you will do just fine and find your niche.

in order to reach 1300 or 1400  practie

Hi, richie_and_oprah

thanks for your comment, you explained everything really clear, one thing hit my mind though. You are right, its no fun to be forced to play if due to technicalities you end up in a game that will probably devour your valuable time. Point well drawn.

And yet, the factor of time is still important on both ends, because its simply limited.

Thank you for your commen, i feel like i m the one who is wining,

Sorry. I cannot play livechess, rules are not flexible enough to allow a 5 minute pause once a game for my wife who has advanced MS and may require at anytime assistance right away. And yes I have suggested this to Erik to no avail.

I would however surmise that it is the same as challenging onlinechess high ranked players, let's say over 2000+ rating, to be confined to their own reclusive or monastic den.

I have suggested in the wishlist#5 from erik,  to kindly ask the 2000+players, no obligations or ties here, to be available to play one game a month with lower ranking players.

The suggestion was not even acknowledge.

zetamarina, I do not think you are whining.  I think it is very frustrating in the beginning.

Like getting a first job and all the jobs openings say experienced required!

 

Most of us older players cut out teeth playing in the real world long before there was an internet.  There were a lot mnore places to go and meet and play people and even find very friendly people to help teach.  Now, these places are very rare and mostly dying off and this is what we have...an impersonal place where the rules of engagement are not fully divulged upfront and are really only picked up after some hard knock-abouts.

 

Good luck and good chess~!

If they wish to play, they will not decline!

If I put a note: Not Accept Challenges!- it is my clear Decision.

But just yesterday two players asked me, politely, to play, and we start playing friendly games..But this is an Exception, because before I played it regularly, and it distract from Tournaments and from Team and Vote Matches...

And I was been disappointed, after playing 132 Greeting games as well, by the  low level of plays, rudeness, Time Outs...

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A chess rating in no way defines who you are, just as it doesnt make you a better or worse person than someone else.  Its simply a measurement of someones chess ability.

Thanks, Suggo, I do now realize how quickly seeks can stroll. I wasnt thinking of it