I do not know anybody on this website so how do you find friends

Here's one method (derived from Stu the Cockatoo is new at the Zoo).

i do actually finish my games

Nuh-uh.  Your last 10 games were under 10 moves each.  Losing on time is not finishing.

And although I do NOT recommend this as you will get a lot of creepy people messaging you, if you want lots of friends just put a picture of a pretty girl as your avatar.  I just get horse fetishists but I can live with that.

just saying, I did not have enough vacation time because I went camping for two weeks and I can't upgrade