Why do you keep suggesting that using databases and computer assistance are more or less the same, they are not. I've already said like three times that you can refer to databases, this is one of the appeals of correspondence chess imo since you can research an opening as you play and therefore you do not have to limit yourself to openings you know, but you cannot use computer assistance. This is not a difficult distinction to make.
And where do you find databases except on a computer? An old copy of MCO perhaps. Yes, I understand that the rules allow the use of "databases". This is not a discussion of what's right or wrong for so-called correspondence chess as defined by chess.com. I made my point about opponents using positional databases to look up ongoing game positions in computer databases during active game play and I don't think it's at all helpful to me in learning, to find a position in a database, see the calculated (dis)advantage and subsequent variations, and then be able to use that knowledge to make the next moves. I don't like it, so I'm abandoning that type of play here. I'll find something else that better reflects my ability and progress against peers. I'm not criticizing anyone for their choice of play and I'm not saying the rules are wrong. They are what they are. I just don't care for those rules here for online chess.
if you're so against the use of databases in online chess just play weird openings to get out of the book early.
but then you're forced to make a concession, simply because you want to emulate proper play.