I think hate will not help you in the long run. but what will make you become a better chess player is having a rival - one you do not want to lose to.

if you have to meet a rival in a tournament and you know one week in advance you have to play this person - you study his games or their opening for hours and you find the mistakes he makes. - this will make you a better chess player.
you study hard and you want to study because you know if you don't you lose.

I hate them if i lose in 4 or 5 turns lol >.<