sometimes i go to sleep and start talking about chess this as happened on many nights and it as woke my wife up, im really thinking of packing up as anyone had this problem.

I don't know whether this advice helps ...

 Two friends meet on the street one day and one of them says, "My wife says if I play in the chess tournament tomorrow she'll take the kids and leave me." The other asks him, "So what are you going to do?" And the other answers, "Same as always, e4."