We are chess players, not relationship advisors.
If the things you say in your second paragraph are true, then I would have to say chess is not the problem.
Now I am going to talk to you the way women talk to each other:
You are your own person. Chess is part of who you are. If they can't accept that, then they can't accept you. Don't let some woman take that away from you. Be strong sister!!!
to focus on chess more. is this a good Idea? it seems that everytime i want to play chess for atleast study it my girlfriend gets in the way. Im sorry i like chess and i feel my gf is getting in the way.
me and my girlfriend has been fighting alot besides me playing chess. for example ever since she moved away she has not made any effort to talk to me or keep in contact with me and if i do it seems like a bother for her to talk to me.