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I am weird - I do not want to play chess!


  • 2 years ago · Quote · #1

    Bartleby73

    Seems like I  have a bit of a problem -  I like solving puzzles, tactics trainer, looking at master games, stuying openings, all kinds of chess training really. I have spent 1-3 hours a day on chess over the last half a year. Sometimes I play against a computer but I really shun playing against real people online or otb.

    If I (has been a a few weeks now) get myself to actually play a game, I do not get much satisfaction out of it - If I win, I think my opponent was just some beginner who does not know yet what he/she should do (truth be told, I am a beginner myself) If I lose, I get angry with myself for my patzers.

    Am I not competitive enough? Do I shun time pressure up to the point of the ridiculous? What could I do to get over this fear?

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #2

    Truffaut

    Forget about chess and start dating women.

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #3

    free2bemeagain

    Just play, it is the only way to find out how good you are at the game.

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #4

    ElKitch

    perhaps set the rating seek to:

    minimum: your rating
    maximum: your rating + 200

    then you always get opponents that are equal/stronger.

    Personally I dont like the opening and always look forward to move 8,9,10 :)

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #5

    JacksofClubs

    move 10 is still the opening.

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #6

    kco

    JacksofClubs wrote:

    move 10 is still the opening.

    not always.

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #7

    JacksofClubs

    usually.

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #8

    Bartleby73

    whether move ten is still the opening depends on the players and on the game. This does not really address my issue.

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #9

    Estragon

    Truffaut wrote:

    Forget about chess and start dating women.

    He can't face a living chess opponent and you want him to deal with women?

    Tough love . . . Surprised

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #10

    MyCowsCanFly

    I think the OP is saying he only likes to play with himself.

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #11

    AnthonyCG

    It sounds like you enjoy learning about the game but you don't enjoy actually playing it. I've met some guys like that before. They read middlegame books and watch master games but they never play. I think they're just bored of the game and do it just to do it...

    I would take a long break from the game and see what happens.

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #12

    ElKitch

    JacksofClubs wrote:

    move 10 is still the opening.

    But thats about where variation starts kicking in (in my games atleast)

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #13

    kco

    AnthonyCG wrote:

    It sounds like you enjoy learning about the game but you don't enjoy actually playing it. I've met some guys like that before. They read middlegame books and watch master games but they never play. I think they're just bored of the game and do it just to do it...

    I would take a long break from the game and see what happens.

    +1

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #14

    Elubas

    +2

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #15

    Abhishek2

    kco wrote:
    AnthonyCG wrote:

    It sounds like you enjoy learning about the game but you don't enjoy actually playing it. I've met some guys like that before. They read middlegame books and watch master games but they never play. I think they're just bored of the game and do it just to do it...

    I would take a long break from the game and see what happens.

    +1

    +3.

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #16

    EskimoJack

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  • 2 years ago · Quote · #17

    RookRumble

    Hi Bartleby73

    I think chess has got you spooked.  To be good at chess I think you have to have nerves of steel and really believe in yourself....never give up.  You have to be relaxed yet focused, not prone to panicing.  You have to widen your view and not get too focused on one thing either.  You have to forget about past failures and look to each game with fresh entusiasm.  Forget about intimidation, believe in your moves and make sure that every single move you do is the absolute best you can do.  Remember 5 solid moves is better than 4 brilliant moves and one bad move.  Also you need a life outside of chess or you could become too stuffy and this could affect your game. 

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #18

    Bartleby73

    Rook Rumble, I agree with you on all counts. Unfortunately, I do not have much of a life outside chess atm. Wonder why that is... Ah its part of my job, thats why.  And to everybody who suggests I should start dating: I am happily married, thank you.

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #19

    Eseles

    yes you are weird, but for other reasons Tongue Out  Wink  lol

  • 2 years ago · Quote · #20

    DazedKnight

    I know someone who feels the same way - highly educated, loves chess theory, reads articles, studies tactics, but doesn't like to actually play chess.

    For the person I'm thinking of, it's a perfectionist / control issue. If you never put yourself out there in tournaments (especially OTB) you can never experience the wide swing of emotions that comes with winning one game, then losing in 10 moves to a very young child.

    Suck it up, play some games, and don't worry about the outcome. You'll have an awesome time, and probably make friends while you're at it.


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