No, it's real chess. Top players are actually quite good at it.
And, you may be slow and methodical and, perhaps should never play blitz. However, my experience is the more I play...I get faster. I suspect you will get a lot faster, too, in time.
For me, rapid chess at 10 minutes per side is as fast as I want to go, although I could play 5 minute games...but not my cup of tea. It's chess, alright.
Relax, take it easy... 
So soothing those words coming from someone like you Natalia
You creep.
ah grasshopper-the key to wining is losing-find out WHY you lose-become the butterfly.
Sacrifice more pieces when you play. Your wins will still be rare, but you'll be able to justify your losses in the name of the pursuit of chess beauty. A good excuse is almost as good as a win.
Slow down to Game in 10/5. Start studying some decent chess books.
A little chess knowledge will see you crushing players at your rating level in no time.
So get with the program. Your-time-is-a-wasting.
i know that feeling the only thing that frustrates me more is supporting west ham united, and watching England play football.
i know that feeling the only thing that frustrates me more is supporting west ham united, and watching England play football.
Saints handed you a lifeline though! 
Then why are you playing on chess.com?
Play an unrated game.
I sympathize - hate losing too
I think at some point in order to be good in chess you don't have to be babble happy about losing. I think Kasporov said in order to be good you have to hate losing so you will study to be good.
I was playing chess for many years and considered every game I lost a change to learn, but now I just hate losing so now I stopped otb and only play and study on chess.com.
Truth is, some people have conniption fits. You, the OP, seem to fill the bill on this. And, as several people told you, knock off the speed chess until you develop at least a smidgeon of skill.
Thanks for introducing me to a totally new word.
And 'dashofchutmeg', try to remember how great you feel when you win against a stronger player. Doesn't that make it all worthwhile ?
And 'dashofchutmeg', try to remember how great you feel when you win against a stronger player.
Perhaps you are assuming too much.
i tell this to my kids (and it's good advice for all of us):
you're never losing when you're learning.
life isn't about winning or outcomes. it's about process and improvement. if you want to win all the time, only play people way worse than you. if you want to enjoy the game - the learning, the depth, the journey - then change your mindset. learn to examine your games and improve from them. otherwise, why play? if you only enjoy the winning feeling, try "TicTacToe-ButIAlwaysGoFirst.com" - it's a great site! ;)
Now if only I could learn not to lose. 
What he said is so true.
Now here's the thing...
I keep working on improvement in the endeavor to not lose as much.
Earning a win, that's is a joy.
if you only enjoy the winning feeling, try "TicTacToe-ButIAlwaysGoFirst.com" - it's a great site! ;)
Even then you might still draw from time to time.
connect 4 you always win if you go first and you know the right strategy.
Try playing slower games. I didn't even know what blitz was when I started out.
Definitely.
It has always been my opinion that blitz chess, et al. are not real chess. This may be due to my slow, methodical temperament however.