I am disappointed at lack of etiquette and manners on the general chats and between players.  Each game should begin and end with hello and then thanks.   I understand not all players here speak English, and I would be happy to learn how to say these things in other languages.

Perhaps we can give out more trophies for good sportsmanship.  

A few times, I was amazed at some of the comments I got.  I usually disabled the chat, aborted if possible, and reported the incident at chess. com.

Chess is special.  It's not pro wrestling!

Yes, I agree. I often get rude comments. True I might say the same things to myself, but never would I write them to hurt others.

I agree, sometimes the childishness of some players, revealed by their poor sportsmanship displayed in their comments, is quite pronounced.

welcome to the internet, where anonymoty creates tough guys.  :)

You can't control what other people do.

The fact is that on the internet people show their true colors.  People who act immaturely or rudely do because that is the nature of their personalities.  People who are well mannered act well mannered.  The internet is mainly an anonymous place and so it seems that nobody is "watching".  There is a saying that I learned sometime back that goes: "Integrity is behaving as if other people are watching even when you know that they aren't."  A lot of people here suffer from a lack of basic integrity and decency and that's just the way it is.  If you NEED your opponents to be more courteous then I'd suggest going to an actual chess club.  You'll find more genial behavior there.

If not in the mood to read the typical sexual comments that occur, I either abort or resign. The ego comments are more tolerable, because you can always just beat them in the game.

At least you can turn the chat off!

I've found that MOST people tend to act quite ok, but there are a few who lack integrity.

I have run into couple of them. It was mostly in other languages than English. Filter cant do much about it, nor I expect chess.com to track conversations in all languages. It can be annoying, and I agree there shouldn't be a place for this in chess. But then I remind myself these people are at least here trying to play chess, instead of bothering people, or doing crimes in real life. So I just ignore them , and keep playing. 

Is this more an issue in live, not so much in online?

I have over 2000 games, and I remember only 1 occasion where I felt the need to turn off chat. I play almost exclusively online.

So true.

I notice that the rudest players are found while playing fast chess.  Don't know why, but quick time controls seem to attact them.

Why resign, instead of simply ignoring or blocking them?

I have never had this problem.

It gets pretty rude, philidor_position, very creepy sometimes. I play on many sites, and once I realize I'm playing someone who probably just got out of prison, or hasn't been caught yet, I just want to leave. The interest in the game or my rating, disappears. And a lot of times I am chatting with them before it happens.

It's probably difficult for me to empathize with such situation, but as an outside observer, I think the "politically correct" way to go (with the literal meaning of the words) would be not resigning and trying your best to ignore them.

But I serve drinks to men where I am initially rather a plain looking woman, and after a few drinks I turn into Heddy Lamar! On the internet I can speak without stumbling about, and I can leave without fear of being followed(mostly). I am free and I am going to remain free

This is one of the unfortunate issues with internet anonymity. A philosopher, Sartre, put forward the idea that interaction with others is necessary to the emergence of reflective conciousness. In other words, until people 'see' you (and turn you into an 'object'), individuals are not self-concious. Sartre gives an example- someone is spying through a keyhole, and only stops when someone spots him, making him an 'object' and thus they truly realise what they are doing.

I believe this is directly applicable to some people's actions on the internet.

Nytik, would you please clarify the relevance of that to some people's actions on the internet? (honest question)

Because of the anonymous nature of the internet, we are never truly 'seen' by other people. Through this, we cannot be expected to experience full self-conciousness while using it. This leads to people doing things they would never even think of doing in real life, where they are observable.