It gets right up my nose when opponents blank me. Ok you may not be the coversationalist of the year, but a simple "Hello" would surffice. To say nothing is, in my opinion, down right rude!!!
Can I just ask, if you are a player who says absolutley nothing why you chose to do so? I understand if people don't want to talk but I believe it's manners to acknowledge the other persons exsistance.
Or am I missing something?
Maybe some people just like to focus on the game.
There is a chess game there in case you didn't notice.
I speak when spoken to but I never initiate it, even with a "hi". Many players don't want any conversation at all, they just want to play chess. Many people do not speak English.
Yeah, i agree with that, except I'll occaisionally close a window in live in anger & frustration (at myself) when someone says "good game" when I've just done something really stupid, often while muttering to myself no it wasn't...
I like to exchange some chat, after all this is a social game , where else could I ask someone how life is in Outer Mongolia ?
Courtesy is the policy of a gentleman. Should you not want to chat then surely the message is to switch to 'moves' which disables the chat, not rude just a message that the person does not want to engage.
Of course it is eithers choice whether to play each other again. True there is a chess game going on- depends on your definition of 'game' whether you think it appropriate.
I agree with Lily. It's rude not to greet your opponent. Hi, Hola, bonjour, whatever language.
It's also polite to say "good game" at the end. (which doesn't really mean "good" game, it's just good sportsmanship)
it's ok not to want to talk, but if you were face to face with somebody and you said "hello" to them how would you react if they blatently ignored you?
Is that ok?
Would "thanks for the game" not be more appropriate? I understand some people feel the need for some kind of post game internet handshake, but I find it a little irritating when an opponent suggests one of has played a good game when it's quite apparent s/he or me hasn't.
Some people are just lazy and never get around to typing anything in the box. I like warm people and outgoing types and would never dream of discouraging you, but dare I ask...why does it bother you this much? And is it really so frequent?
Better to come here to the forums for talking. :)
It happens enough for me to notice. Don't know why it bothers me so much... Yes I do , Its Bloody Rude!! : ^)
I don't like having conversations if they interrupt what I am doing and more so when I am focusing on something like a chess game. I have no problem with exchanging greetings, but I really don't care for a lot banter during my game as it wastes time off of my clock, causes me to lose focus and besides, it is considered bad form during to carry on a conversation during OTB play anyway. If people would keep to a simple "hello" then that would be fine. Unfortunately, many don't. That said, I always tell my opponent "good game" or "thanks for the game" afterwards.
"up my nose" , "blank me" two new expressions for me, that i never heard growing up in New York city etc. well i don't like chit chat in chess, nor do i like chat in the lew........but if i'm in a pub in Seattle area i will chat with blokes, perhaps over fish n chips...well i digress...........
But your not face to face are you?
It's not meant to be taken literally!
Just respond to your opponent's chats and don't be that junkie shooting up on the street corner.
First of all your name is lily, that's enough reason for me not to talk to you. Second, SHUT UP.
third, you don't even use your real avatar like i do.
fourth, your breath is so bad i can smell it when you chat.
s no harm in hi in Opening Thanks in the End and optionals in the Middle--thank u all for the chats
I think its not really rude after all may be they are just very busy. That's they can't be bothered to reply to you.
I think it is rude not to reply to a hello. This is the "interenet" isn't an excuse.