Respect and good manners

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23rd June 2009, 03:27pm
#21
by TheGrobe
Calgary Canada
Member Since: Nov 2007
Member Points: 4617

Not to split hairs, but isn't no spitting on any visitor covered by no spitting anywhere?

23rd June 2009, 03:27pm
#22
by NM ozzie_c_cobblepot
United States
Member Since: Feb 2008
Member Points: 3813

It's ok to spit on a baseball diamond.

23rd June 2009, 03:30pm
#23
by TheGrobe
Calgary Canada
Member Since: Nov 2007
Member Points: 4617

Can you spit on the visitors in a baseball diamond?

23rd June 2009, 03:34pm
#24
by 87654321
England
Member Since: Dec 2008
Member Points: 302
TheGrobe wrote:

Not to split hairs, but isn't no spitting on any visitor covered by no spitting anywhere?


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23rd June 2009, 03:38pm
#25
by TheGrobe
Calgary Canada
Member Since: Nov 2007
Member Points: 4617

I took the liberty of correcting it, however maybe you're right.

Maybe the first one was actually meant to say "smiting"....

23rd June 2009, 03:55pm
#26
by rdecredico
United States
Member Since: Dec 2008
Member Points: 23
Verb
[spiting, spited]
to annoy (someone) deliberately, out of spite: it was to spite his father [variant of despite]
23rd June 2009, 05:09pm
#27
by TheGrobe
Calgary Canada
Member Since: Nov 2007
Member Points: 4617

Oh, I understand that it's a word -- I just doubt that the folks who made the sign did.  It was meant to be a joke anyway -- splitting hairs over a minor logical redundancy when it's clearly not the biggest thing wrong with the sign.

Besides, the way I see it, if you're going to spite someone you might as well smite them.

23rd June 2009, 08:28pm
#28
by typhooncrazy
Kiel Germany
Member Since: Aug 2008
Member Points: 19
batgirl wrote:

"Today I decided that I will not play this player at Chess.com, he will never get my move and I will not resign the game, I will let it die. . ."

"I was educated by my parents to have good manners and  respect to people. . ."

 

hmmm

You never gave me points Yoshi, but now I know how to get 51 points from you. Cheers, Typhooncrazy (:-


23rd June 2009, 09:05pm
#29
by CPawn
Sacramento, California United States
Member Since: Aug 2008
Member Points: 777

I have had nothing but good experiences at OTB tournies with my opponents. Always pleasant, always respectful, and generally always willing to go over the game. But i get to online chess and i think its the fact that people can hide behind a monitor and act " "hard" for some reason. But i assume its human nature. When they are out in the open they are polite, but when they are hiding behind the safety of a computer they change for some reason.

23rd June 2009, 11:03pm
#30
by x1alpha
United States
Member Since: Sep 2008
Member Points: 7

haha, this is funny because I didn't even know the rules of chess conduct (until recently) so I always said 'hi' before starting a live game. A lot of times I'd get a 'hi' back and so later I'd add a comment about a certain move my opponent made, like 'doh! I didn't see that coming' or non-related things even (nothing distracting of course). If they didn't say 'hi' back, I just assumed they didn't like chat and the game would begin and end in total silence. Sealed Rather lame, imo. 

It's weird then, that I know how old some of my opponents were, what they thought about some of my moves (no, I didn't ask, they volunteered), what moves they made that they considered bad (again without asking), what time it was where they were, etc. All this throughout the game! I never expected any responses, especially at critical thinking moments. Basically, I would only talk during my turn and vice-versa, so it was less disruptive to both. Sometimes after it ended there was even further discussion about the game. These were all long games of course (20-40 min.) but unbelievably no one ever complained! In fact they seem to like it just as much. It definitely made the games a lot more fun. Smile

So it's rather surprising to read that people generally don't talk during a game since I've had conversations in a lot of mine. Anyway, I'm all for chat! Unless of course you're brutally serious about chess I guess.

23rd June 2009, 11:16pm
#31
by Anacletus_Ignis
NC United States
Member Since: Feb 2009
Member Points: 125

I usually can't reply to a bright and happy greeting because the game window is not adjusted correctly to begin with (I use Firefox, which is fickle). 

To reply to some chirpy-headed greeter (such as they have at Wal-Mart), I am forced to stop concentrating on winning the game and attempt to adjust the game window by dragging it's edges about, which wish not to be dragged about, trying to make visible the space to click to reply.

It is not worth the time and effort to say hello.  It is meaningless. 

There is already too much socialization in culture.  Disgusting. 

The species need be isolated and sterilized.  With a miracle, they may begin to think for themselves about subjects other than sex and recreating themselves through orgasm. 

In essence, they will become an intellectual that finds the unwashed (to use Kissinger's term) masses appalling if not pitiful.

If I get a "hello" in a chess game, I assume that my opponent (opponent, that is—not best buddy of mine that I wish to retell the occurences of his day) is trying to undermine my game by deceitful tactics. 

I may attempt to deflect this, this... greeting attack, by saying something like "Howdy, I'm on a computer here in jail.  You know why I'm in jail?  I killed a man over a chess game.  You want to come the Sunday worship here?  Maybe have a game after all the blasted singing of new agey hymns like on the Christian radio now-a-days?"

Depending on the response to that, I may alter my "greeting attack" by guising myself as a pregnant woman looking for a husband, all while I unnoticeably develop chess pieces.

23rd June 2009, 11:32pm
#32
by Anacletus_Ignis
NC United States
Member Since: Feb 2009
Member Points: 125

Of course, I'm being a tiny bit cynical, Bishop-Joe.  I do manage to muster a response to most greetings I get here, though many times, I wish I had not, as a stream of abuse follows. 

Thank goodness for "disable chat".  Nothing better than silencing drunken adolescents and then mating them (as I'm sure any Bishop would know).

23rd June 2009, 11:47pm
#33
by BishopJoe
Israel
Member Since: Mar 2008
Member Points: 165
Anacletus_Ignis wrote:

Of course, I'm being a tiny bit cynical, Bishop-Joe.  I do manage to muster a response to most greetings I get here, though many times, I wish I had not, as a stream of abuse follows. 

Thank goodness for "disable chat".  Nothing better than silencing drunken adolescents and then mating them (as I'm sure any Bishop would know).


 LOOOOL, I like it. I proposed Chess.com to add a feature that if my adversary clicks to disable chat, I can see it, and so avoid the whole enchilada!!

Thank you

23rd June 2009, 11:53pm
#34
by 87654321
England
Member Since: Dec 2008
Member Points: 302
TheGrobe wrote:

Oh, I understand that it's a word -- I just doubt that the folks who made the sign did.  It was meant to be a joke anyway -- splitting hairs over a minor logical redundancy when it's clearly not the biggest thing wrong with the sign.

Besides, the way I see it, if you're going to spite someone you might as well smite them.


'the folks who made the sign' understood.

23rd June 2009, 11:54pm
#35
by spikey11
California United States
Member Since: Sep 2008
Member Points: 152

I believe if you are not a paying member the chat feature does not work. If they don't respond who cares keep playing the game.

24th June 2009, 08:14am
#36
by TheGrobe
Calgary Canada
Member Since: Nov 2007
Member Points: 4617
87654321 wrote:
TheGrobe wrote:

Oh, I understand that it's a word -- I just doubt that the folks who made the sign did.  It was meant to be a joke anyway -- splitting hairs over a minor logical redundancy when it's clearly not the biggest thing wrong with the sign.

Besides, the way I see it, if you're going to spite someone you might as well smite them.


'the folks who made the sign' understood.


Ahh, thank you.  You see, I didn't have access to them so that I could ask.  I'm glad someone here did. 

24th June 2009, 08:45am
#37
by marvellosity
Portsmouth United Kingdom
Member Since: May 2009
Member Points: 1497
Anacletus_Ignis wrote:

Nothing better than silencing drunken adolescents and then mating them (as I'm sure any Bishop would know).


Brilliant. Thank you.

24th June 2009, 12:20pm
#38
by 87654321
England
Member Since: Dec 2008
Member Points: 302
TheGrobe wrote:
87654321 wrote:
TheGrobe wrote:

Oh, I understand that it's a word -- I just doubt that the folks who made the sign did.  It was meant to be a joke anyway -- splitting hairs over a minor logical redundancy when it's clearly not the biggest thing wrong with the sign.

Besides, the way I see it, if you're going to spite someone you might as well smite them.


'the folks who made the sign' understood.


Ahh, thank you.  You see, I didn't have access to them so that I could ask.  I'm glad someone here did. 


 No need to ask, the proof is pictured before us, as is your difficulty in admittttting a mistake & moving on.

24th June 2009, 09:36pm
#39
by BishopJoe
Israel
Member Since: Mar 2008
Member Points: 165

If somebody don't want to chat in that specific game, I asked Jay at Chess.com

and here is his answer which I think is the solution:

View Message

From: jay
To: BishopJoe
Date: Jun 25, 2009 @ 6:33am
Subject: Re: Chat disabel

yes, both users chat boxes are removed.

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Original Message by BishopJoe on 6/24/2009 @ 8:13pm:

If my opponent disables chat his chat box is completely removed, but how do I know about it? In such a case, when he disables chat is my chat box for this specific game also removed? ofcourse online games!!!

31st July 2009, 03:00pm
#40
by Joe90
Downtown New Zealand
Member Since: Dec 2008
Member Points: 40

It doesn't hurt to say hi.

You don't have to be big mates, but it does make the world a little friendlier.


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