"Today I decided that I will not play this player at Chess.com, he will never get my move and I will not resign the game, I will let it die. . ."

"I was educated by my parents to have good manners and  respect to people. . ."

hmmm

 I understand yourhmmmmm and what you mean, so I apologise to you and I still think I am well educated, and Najdorf and Ruben Shokron teached me some things about it too. Thank you batgirl

Man get off peoples dick about being polite in game...if they wanna say hi or they dont wanna say hi that is there business.  Its all small talk anyway maybe some people you play just aint into all that jazz.

i agree with batgirl. Replying hi or hello is just a small gesture to say i appreciate your greeting.  But there are times one is so immersed with his or her game that he or she forgets to say the word.  I understand those kind of players but i would appreciate if a fellow player would take a little time to say hi or hello. Let's play a fun chess.  This is what chess.com is all about, enjoying every game and having fun.

 With time, when you will grow, you will understand .

Thank you

I, too, feel it's a little rude when people don't say 'hello' back, but it's not a big deal for me when it's simply on the Internet. If it happened in real life, then that would be a different story…

Agree totally with arbitrary. What's the point in getting even slightly annoyed? You say hi, they don't, just do a mini mental shrug and get on with the battle of minds.

I try not to answer rudeness with rudeness of my own lol.  As an administrator on a chess site, I must have that attitude or I'm not doing my job. 

Besides, if the guy is rude, what better way to rectify the situation than to beat the pants off him in the chess game?  That, sir, is pure satisfaction. 

Try not to let Internet folks ruin your day; it just isn't worth it, bud! 

The problem with saying "Hello" or "Good day to you " is that it initiates a conversation. You can't just reply "Hi" if you don't want to talk and leave it there as the other person will usually send another comment expecting a reply and then you're in a tight spot.

I start my games with a "Good luck" (which doesn't initiate a conversation if replyed to) and I usually get silence - doesn't bother me.

There is no luck in chess ( I prefer: "lets have a good game") but at least it shows a human atittude to your opponent and as you say doesn't initiate a conversation. This is OK with me too. Thank you

I am sure you are in Chess for a long time, and probably you participated in more than one "face to face" OTB game or tournament so please tell me if you didn't shake hands with your opponent before starting the game and after you finished it? This is the right attitude and it has nothing to do with rudeness!!        and about :

"Try not to let Internet folks ruin your day; it just isn't worth it, bud! "

You are absolutly right, it just isn't worth it.

u do know there r exceptions. i have met many people like that who after a little while will say "i no speak english" or something along those lines. they just might not understand u. try a different language. find their countries language and try it out using google translate. works for me.

My personal foible BishopJoe is that I dont appreciate when opponents type good game or good luck prior an introduction.

Moving on, do you find many people chat too much and if so have you any particular escape strategies.

Thank You

John Boy

PS did your parents ever say turn the other cheek 

  If using a mobile device your opponent would even not see yours "Good Day to you" except the wait to upload messages.

Many times I feel uncomfortable when the person says hi. I say hi back, but sometimes I wonder if I should. Usually saying hi back isn't a problem, but sometimes if you answer, the other person starts talking to you about something random and it's actually very annoying because I'm trying to concentrate on my game, and at the same time I don't want to be rude by not answering. If you simply ignore the hi, you wont be dragged in to a conversation with someone you don't know...

I think it's rude to knowingly bring up inflammatory topics that have already been beaten to death.

But then, we all have our different standards of rudeness, don't we.

Some people just come here for the chess and NOT to talk. I doubt it's a lack of manners, but rather he's trying to focus on his game? This is just my opinion about this matter. I, myself, do greet and talk to my opponents, but there will always be someone who just wants to play without interuption.

ADK

No making the visitors to talk or terrify into resigning.

thank you anonym, that pretty much says it all. I'll try to stop spitting and throwing rubbish about when I'm playing, I promise.

just to make it clear i always reply if i get a hi or whatever and i often start a game by saying Hi. many times I dont get a reply and it never bothers me and to tell you the truth i dont think you should expect them to reply! you will most likely never meet the people you play here in person, that how the Internet is. If someone doesn't reply you may never know the reason, they may not know how to read English well, they may be in a hurry when making a move etc.

I believe it defeats the purpose to be well mannered but expect everyone else to behave the same... and when they dont, you throw away your good manners as well