Rude Players

What is with these players who do not respond to challenges, or to messages?  I have heard others complain about what they consider to be unsporting behavior in the form of taking too long to make a move.  Given that we all have busy schedules keeping us away from this site, and given that some of us play many games on this site, thereby essentially forcing a delay in games for which the best move is not immediately obvious, this complaint seems a bit mis-placed.  But is there any comparable explanation for a complete lack of any response whatsoever when a challnge is issued?  Or, when a challenge is accepted, and one player sends a greeting such as "How are you?", is there any justification for the other player to not have the modicum of common courtesy required to even respond at all?  Unbelieveable!

I agree.  Unfortunately, not everybody has any politeness at all.  Assuming they can speak English, they are just rude.  But being rude isn't a crime so I suppose you have to put up with one game with them, then put them on your blacklist.  Eventually, if like minded people do the same, they will all end up playing each other!

Suggestion; when you have a game and enjoy playing your oppo, maybe chatting during game, swap names of a couple of others you have each played and got on with.  Birds of a feather ....

Choosing not to respond is not rude.  A disrespectful response is rude, but no response is just exercising personal preference.  Judging someone for choosing not to talk to you is rude.  You can't expect that everyone you play is here for the same social reasons you are.  Some just want some quiet time to play chess.  I agree, it sucks when you want to talk and your opponent doesn't, but that does not make them rude

I love to chat.

When I first started, I took offense when the other person would not respond to me. 

I guess some people want to just concentrate on the game and maybe talking distracts them. 

This is the internet and we can know precious little about the people we get matched up with or why they might not respond in what we consider to be a polite manner. There are many aspects of the lives of other players that we might never anticipate or hope to understand. Attributing an unanswered greeting to rudeness is assuming the worst of someone we really know nothing about. I'd be deeply ashamed if someone I'd labeled as rude, even if only in my own mind, only to find they suffered from some disability that made it difficult or impossible for them to respond.

While I can see the possibility of one not being able to read nor wirte to be able to play chess, they still need to log into the site to play....which would logically follow they had to be able to be literate on some level....unless they are playing under someone else's handle. 

I think if someone disables chat, then it is off for both parties.  I had the experience of a game where I could not understand why there was no message box during the game as i wanted to communicate with the other player.  I had not disabled the chat...(I was still new) and only learned later one could disable chat.  I find diasabling chat quite useful when opponets are making rude comments.

Again, like I have said in other posts and others have said so far in this post...we cannot assume what is going on with our opponent so we cannot assume to know why they choose not to respond if we say "Hi".....It's happened to me...no big deal....it gives me time to look at other things on the net or play my bass guitar instead of chatting.....just have some patience with others and your lives will have less frustration......  Cheers!

"There are chessplayer who cant read or write!  ONE example."

Hard to imagine. How do they get online and find chess.com?