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Teaching my girlfriend chess


  • 23 months ago · Quote · #1

    vowles_23

    So, I have a wonderful girlfriend who has taken to chess. She joined chess.com the other day so we could play on the internet when conveniently too. 

    My question: How can I help her improve the most? She is actually gifted at the game, although she doesn't understand that she is herself. Simple mates I have taught her, as well as some principles, etc. We play training games where I try to give her a commentary on every move, and point out why some moves are bad. Her tactical awareness in not hanging pieces, for her level of experience is very good.
    Generally, she plays the opening fine too, ones that are normal for a good few moves.

    So, she wants to learn, but in which way should I teach? Books are probably out of the question, because the main idea is time together. 

    And if you're reading this Honey, I love you :3 

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #2

    Scottrf

    Dump her if she doesn't already know Grunfeld theory 20 moves deep.

    Na I think basic mates, simple pawn endgames and all the basic tactics is a good start. Basically everything that's taught here:

    http://www.chesstactics.org/

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #3

    vowles_23

    Laughing

    Basic tactics, i.e. pins, forks, backrank mates, etc.?

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #4

    vowles_23

    Whaleeyeman wrote:

    I enjoy giving my girlfriend the "back rank mate" if you know what i'm saying...

    That comment was pretty much inevitable.

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #5

    grandbrother

    Good luck. It's cool. 

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #6

    vowles_23

    Whaleeyeman wrote:

    Hey, you teed it up and I knocked it 300 yards down the fairway!  Nice setup, my man.

    I see I need to choose my words more carefully Laughing The mating attack ... that uh... is on the... back rank...

     @grandbrother: thankyou :)

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #7

    YushkaPods

    Baby, that's.. :3 not necessary, I just can read books in Russian about chess if you want me to, and play with you? so you'd be not worried how to teach me and I'd have been improving

    and I love you too :*

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #8

    Scottrf

    I thought all Russians could play chess as babies?

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #9

    JamieKowalski

    My  wife always tells me that there is nothing more boring than watching me play chess. On the other hand, I keep seeing her looking at the board and trying to figure out what's going on. I think she has a secret desire to understand the game better, but is afraid to jump in. I'd bet that if she took it up, she'd already have a fairly good positional feel for a beginner just through osmosis. 

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #10

    vowles_23

    Scottrf wrote:

    I thought all Russians could play chess as babies?

    Yeah, it's like a prerequisite to being Russian.

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #11

    vowles_23

    JamieKowalski wrote:

    she'd already have a fairly good positional feel

    Perhaps not the best choice of words... But good luck to you :)

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #12

    tellmeaboutit

    I heard that Russia children must study chess in school.

    Scottrf wrote:

    I thought all Russians could play chess as babies?

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #13

    baddogno

    Nah, I beat my Russian neighbor like a rented mule. ^

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #14

    RosieChristensen

    Funnily enough the reason I started playing chess is because my boyfriend was (still is) obsessed with it and I thought it would be nice to understand what he talked about and as a way to spend some extra time together.

    Speaking from experience what really improved my game was as simple as just finding chess interesting. The more interesting I found it, the more I wanted to play, and later even study it.

    So perhaps the most important thing is to make sure she stays interested by making sure she enjoys it, be patient and just let the chess bug take a hold by itself, it's not exactly hard to get addicted to this game once you start playing it.  

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #15

    -waller-

    I have tried to teach my girlfriend chess, but at the moment have given up as I don't really feel she is that interested. Taught her a few bits about basic mates, opening principles etc. but there would always come a point where she was unable to find "anything" to do, and refused to move!

    In the end, I tried playing games where she could opt to switch colours instead of playing a move, but that didn't work either. Meh, I guess if she doesn't enjoy it, then too bad. vowles_23, you are a lucky man!

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #16

    vowles_23

    RosieChristensen wrote:

    Funnily enough the reason I started playing chess is because my boyfriend was (still is) obsessed with it and I thought it would be nice to understand what he talked about and as a way to spend some extra time together.

    Speaking from experience what really improved my game was as simple as just finding chess interesting. The more interesting I found it, the more I wanted to play, and later even study it.

    So perhaps the most important thing is to make sure she stays interested by making sure she enjoys it, be patient and just let the chess bug take a hold by itself, it's not exactly hard to get addicted to this game once you start playing it.  

    Interesting, that's cool! And do you still play frequently with him?

    And @-waller-, hard luck, but I can imagine that fairly easily if someone just simply isn't interested :) Yeah, I know it ;) 

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #17

    theweaponking

    Good luck in teaching your girlfriend chess, Vowles.  And if you or she needs help on something, I love to help folks out.  Laughing

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #18

    YushkaPods

    Scottrf wrote:

    I thought all Russians could play chess as babies?

    well that's a stereotype haha. Actually almost not everyone knows how to and we don't study it at school either, tellmeaboutit. Sooo.. I didn't even have a chess set and I don't have now, we just use V's, but I hardly knew how do pieces move until this summer (I thought it's something like checkers) and I highly doubt anyone from my friends does! :D

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #19

    mapearson1990

    "although she doesn't understand that she is herself."

    Misunderstood this the first time I read it and nearly fell off my chair laughing. I took it to mean that she didn't know who she was, despite being gifted at the game Laughing

    Was laughing with pure joy, at the idea that someone was more concerned with teaching his girlfriend chess, than her temporary loss of memory of herself. If this were true then priority issues have been unearthed here. Laughing

    I of-course understand how it was meant now and was just wanting to say you made my day. Best of luck my friend.

  • 23 months ago · Quote · #20

    vowles_23

    mapearson1990 wrote:

    "although she doesn't understand that she is herself."

    Misunderstood this the first time I read it and nearly fell off my chair laughing. I took it to mean that she didn't know who she was, despite being gifted at the game 

    Was laughing with pure joy, at the idea that someone was more concerned with teaching his girlfriend chess, than her temporary loss of memory of herself. If this were true then priority issues have been unearthed here. 

    I of-course understand how it was meant now and was just wanting to say you made my day. Best of luck my friend.

    Hahaha lol :D I don't understand how you managed to understand it this way, but hilarious nevertheless!


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