Robbels,you play against Dutch players. They play like cruyff "professional football". I am not saying that everybody has to play like this and you can be a true gentleman, but nobody should complain about somebody who uses the rules to his advantage if he decides so.
Thanks for the cruyff reference ;) you make a fair point, but I do not fully agree. For example: like I stated before FIDE OTB rules are that players in time trouble can claim a draw when the opponent does not make attempts to win the game but just moves his rook up and down to waste time. There are some formalities and practicalities on how this should be done. To be specific, the clock needs to be stopped and the arbiter should be informed who then evaluates the position and the last moves and gives a verdict on whether it is drawn or not.
The above cannot of course be done here on chess.com. It is therefore impossible to implement such a rule. Personally I see it as a 'non-written rule' or gentelmanly conduct if you will.
I'll take another example that is for maybe clearer to explain. I play in an interclub chess-leageu where over the year we play a half round-robin tournament with teams of 8 vs 8. Time control is 2 hours for 40 + 30min for the rest. If for some reason a player cannot be on time on the playing location, he has 30 min to show up (clock will be started though) and after that his game will be forfeited by default. Now what I could do is the following: I could show up for every game 25 minutes late, just to annoy my opponent. This is within the rules, it is allowed, so why shouldn't I? Because it is considered unsportsmanlike! It is an unwritten rule. If my team/club consists out of decent men/women they will probably be mad at me for implementing such a tactic and not want to have me on their team any more or play against them on the club. I could go to another club and to the same thing and get disliked again untill no-one wants to play with or against me. OR I could just come on time, why be a pain in the ass?
So in my view, there are some unwritten rules in the chess game that people should (they are not obliged to) follow and they stem from OTB chess. I once played a simul game against Viktor Korchnoi to celebrate the 75th birthday of my chess club. Adjacent to me was a guy who screwed up the opening completely and was lost by move 13. However he kept on playing to the disbelief and anger of the great Korchnoi, wo did finish the game however. I think he said something like: 'why do you keep stupidely playing this lost position, you cannot play chess'.
Back to the discussion, If I come across a player that annoys me by playing a K+R vs K+R ending, I could block him and prevent playing him again as I see a lot of people suggesting in multiple topics on this site. This might solve MY problem but it does not solve THE problem. You should not play that ending to annoy & hope for blunders, that is not in the spirit off chess game. The same with people hoping and being happy with a disconnect of their opponent. I cannot recall ANYONE coming to my chess club for either inter or intra club competition and being happy that they won a point because their opponent didn't show up. People on my club want to play a 'good' game of chess and they enjoy playing.
To conclude: If someone deliberatly employs tactics to annoy you (typing loads of abusive chat/continually offering draws in lost positions/playing out lost position for the sole reason to piss you off) he has every right to be complained about
I have to admit I use time tactic to my advantage. I had a game that I could easily lost. Instead of resigning, I run down my time from 3 days to a few hours for a move. Eventually, my opponent fed up with my tactic. Instead of offering a draw which I would be glad to accept, he resigned.
A dirty tactic from me. Do I feel guilty? Yes, I do. It should have been his win.
But then there is a test of patience. Don't think that a win would be presented to you in a golden plate. There are so many tactics that your opponent will do just to erase that win.
So, should I feel guilty? He can easily call me names due to my dirty tactic.
That is just ugly. I think everyone can agree that THIS is poor sportmanship. How should I have expected people agreeing with me if the posters are guys like you?
Time is a component of the game, and you have to live with it . Nothing compels a player to take a draw when they are in an inferior position and their opponent is in time trouble. And let's be fair to douchebags. They do their job efficiently without whining.