I really get frustrated when I lose esspesially when I play like someone who doesn't know how the pieces move, like the following game.  I do not feel the need to make comments during the game-but others may do so if they please.

I think you certainly need an attitude adjustment, at the very least.  It's unsportsmanlike to slander your opponent like that.

 

Did you just lose by resigning?  You have to keep fighting here.  Yeah, you're down the exchange, and that sucks, but resigning here is giving up on yourself. Once you screw up, you owe it to yourself to calm down and continue fighting. 

anaxagoras wrote:

I think you certainly need an attitude adjustment, at the very least.  It's unsportsmanlike to slander your opponent like that.

 

Did you just lose by resigning?  You have to keep fighting here.  Yeah, you're down the exchange, and that sucks, but resigning here is giving up on yourself. Once you screw up, you owe it to yourself to calm down and continue fighting. 

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Who did he slander? He was putting HIMSELF down by saying he plays "like someone who doesn't know how the pieces move."

After 9 Ng5, perhaps 9 ... h6 to kick the knight back before castling? Then after 10 Nf3, White's kingside is hampered without f4.

 

Also, 14 ... Bxc3 really hurt Black's position. The a1-h8 diagonal is weak, and White still has his dark-squared bishop.

Don't quit chess! Dozens of times I have been frustrated but it's all a learning experience.  Ask yourself this:  "Am I a better player than I was last month."  If you are making progress and having fun, why quit?  I didn't know what the pieces did eight months ago.  At this point I still lose the vast majority of my games but this game offers a real opportunity to keep the mind working.  Terriffic! Keep the faith and best wishes.

If you don't enjoy chess even when you lose, and worse, you are even thinking of quitting chess, then yeah, quit. Because it means you aren't playing for the right reasons maybe. But I guess this isn't what you were expecting when you opened the topic huh?

Just my way of thinking (which admittedly hasn't taken me far):

Don't think about winning or losing. Focus 100% on making your next move the best one possible.

All competition is with the self and the only true loss is giving up.

I think we have to learn from our mistakes. I play music. Do you think I get it right the first time I try to play a song on the guitar? No, it takes constant practice and you have to keep going until you get it right. The same applies to chess. I was going through a training program last night and had done really well on the first half of the program. I suddenly started falling apart with my responses. I got really frustrated and was ready to quite for the night. Instead, I gathered up my thoughts and continued. I got back on track and that was that. Learn from your mistakes and don't quit. It's that simple. Also, watch your opening game. Only exchange if it gives you an advantage. A pawn for a pawn is great only if it boosted your overall position!

Anaxagoras, I did not mean anything negative twoard my opponent I was commenting only on my own play.  Etienne, my policy is:why play unless you are going to win.  Yes the game is fun, even when I lose it's ok most of the time because at least I did not make a fool of myself.  But sometimes I just make  stupid mistakes that I don't understand how anyone could make-ever.  That's what happened in the game and cudos to my opponent for taking advantage of my blunders.

tbirdtird wrote: Anaxagoras, I did not mean anything negative twoard my opponent I was commenting only on my own play.  Etienne, my policy is:why play unless you are going to win.  Yes the game is fun, even when lose it's ok most of the time because at least I did not make a fool of myself.  But sometimes I just make  stupid mistakes that I don't understand how anyone could make-ever.  That's what happened in the game and cudos to my opponent for taking advantage of my blunders.

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 This confirms my post.

You have to just play because you love the game, the beauty of the endless possibilites and unseen strategies. Playing only to win...someone like that should just be a "chess cheater" like on the other forum post. Getting slaughtered by someone can be just as fun, believe it or not, as being the one doing the slaughtering. You can watch them play for the enjoyment of seeing them think and work out their positions. That's fun, too.

<tbird> Every chess player in history has blundered, and we still do it to this day... You don't want to beat yourself up over it, rather you should pick yourself back up, brush yourself off and get back into the ring. In other words, keep fighting! Your game will continue to improve with each game you play.

tbirdtird wrote: why play unless you are going to win.  Yes the game is fun, even when I lose it's ok most of the time because at least I did not make a fool of myself.  But sometimes I just make  stupid mistakes that I don't understand how anyone could make-ever. 

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Hmm. Let's look that over:

"Why play unless you are going to win" - well, in that case, why bother taking up any new game or sport? After all, you are ALWAYS going to lose, at least in the beginning. For that matter, why bother trying ANYTHING new, since you are going to make a buch of bonehead mistakes anyways.

 

Reminds me of my Sensei, in regard to competing at a tournament: The first-place trophy is a consolation prize for there not being anyone there you could learn from.

 

A little harsh on yourself perhaps, but understandable. No one likes a blunder if they're honest........

what's the point in playing if you win all the time. it gets boring, you can lose and then later rethink the game and learn from your mistakes. personally i play chess because it gives me a challenge, i dont expect to win all the time, like creg said "brush yourself off and get back into the ring." losing is a part of life. if find that you areen't having fun then yes quit but otherwise you are just losing out on yourslef by not doing something you enjoy.

no wories

izzie wrote: what's the point in playing if you win all the time. it gets boring, you can lose and then later rethink the game and learn from your mistakes. personally i play chess because it gives me a challenge, i dont expect to win all the time, like creg said "brush yourself off and get back into the ring." losing is a part of life. if find that you areen't having fun then yes quit but otherwise you are just losing out on yourslef by not doing something you enjoy.

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alec94x wrote:

 

Don't quit losing is as important as winning chess is a team game all of your pieces have to work and communicate well think and play as a unified army not as an individual person!

 

 

  
 

 

 

 

 

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chessbot3000 wrote:

Just my way of thinking (which admittedly hasn't taken me far):

Don't think about winning or losing. Focus 100% on making your next move the best one possible.

All competition is with the self and the only true loss is giving up.

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Don't give up guy! You resigne or you go on to fight ! Don't be fear of loss, and try to review this game and learn from your mistakes