Okay we play chess with one another maybe for a  day or week or longer why dont we at least say hello at the begining or something cordial.. i usually say Good Game at the end and its not always acknowledged or perhaps taken the wrong  way.  Even hockey players shake hands at the end so ... 

It depends on the person. Hockey players are forced to shake hands. Some people (myself included) don't neccesarily like being online because of creepers and the like. You will notice people who do say that stuff-but some are silent. It is not that they are not friendly, it is that they are perhaps shy. 9 out 10 times if you say hello at the beginning of the game you will recive some sort of recognition from your opponent. If you go to an actual OTB tournament players shake hands at the beginning of the match. 

Chess is extremely friendly; the internet isn't. Regardless of what you're doing over the net (chess, checkers, some videogame, chatting) there will be people whom deindividuate and are rude. 

If you go to a chess club or a tournament, you'll find virtually everyone is extremely helpful and kind, unless they have a reason to be otherwise.

I am extremely frustrated that a "hi" at the start of a game is ignored. I'd like to play the 9 of 10. My strike rate is more like 2/3 of 10. Then they disappear without a word. Rudes in my country.

I agree that chess can be friendly and it should be more so ...were not just ghosts in the darkness plotting moves against one another. we are people from all over the world.  why not say hi or good luck  

Remember, if you're not a premium member, you can only chat with friends. A lot of the time people say hi and try and make friendly chatter and I can't respond. I bet most of the "unfriendly" players are like that.

Good point Bellomy. Maybe it would be in Chess. com s  best interests to allow non premium members to chat or at least enter a friendly openning  or closing remark ..

So, non-premium players are silenced by Chess.com  until they pay up...that sounds friendly too !!.  Chess players are as friendly as most people its just that in this format its too easy to be distant, silent  and somewhat anonymous . its a game that were playing afterall...so have fun...

I don't play online chess to socialize. I play to test myself. As such, I prefer no chatting and turn all chat off whenever applicable. I save the social chess for local club games.

huh?...lol

ONE OF THE REASONS  I PLAY ON CHESS .COM IS TO MAKE FRIENDS AND BE SOCIAL 

I've played many games when I won't respond until I have time. "Hi" means nothing, really. I'm not joining tournaments to socialize. Many others are the same way. If you click on the game, it's all about the game. Now, when I've had time, I've developed a rapport with some, but it's not something to be taken for granted.

Some may go to their games, move, and move on.

TMIMITW...that's the very point. I'm not interested in their life's history or even small-talk during a game. But to not say "hi" and Bye is plain rude.

But Bellomy has a good point. I didn't realise (note correct spelling) it and will stop being offended.

But I DO hope I don't come across FirebrandX. I'm amused he sees no problem in showing no manners.

You ever noticed that boxers touch gloves b4 trying to belt the bejabbers out of each other?

I used to have too many people start asking me questions when I only had a few seconds left on my clock (I wonder why) and found even if I didn't reply it affected my concentration. If I tried to calculate some complex sequence I'd often receive comments to hurry up. Reluctantly I had to turn chat off.

The touching of gloves is a mark of respect, to say " we now stand as equals".  "but are about to sort out the pecking order"

But after the fight they often hug, hold their opponents hands up, give them respect in the interview etc.

I box trust me, when the ref says touch gloves he is alerting you checking you are ready to start. Hes saying make your peace one of you is about to get pezzled. You do not get in the ring if you do not think you can control your emotions. Before or after. Its a sport of GENTLEMEN!! Just like chess.

LOL. I hope someday all people realize the real correct spelling! ;)

(We do make it difficult for non-native speakers.)

 you are not thinking anything when the referee TELLS you to touch gloves ,

Your quote.