How do I know if my opponent has diabled chat? Do I? Or must I assume that they are being rude?

you'll know if they have disabled the chatbox, as it won't be there on your game page. ... If someone disables chat, its not them being rude, some people don't like to chat during their chess game

I almost always say "Hi, from Lisbon" at the start of each of my games. From that point I may or may not chat during the game, it depends entirely on my opponent. If they like to chat then we chat if they don't we don't. I especially like to chat with the gals which often gets me into hot water with my jealous latin wife!

LOL Reb, i chat sometimes during a game.. If i'm not sure whether my opponent can speak or understand english, i use a translator, and wish them a good game in their own language.

kohai wrote: LOL Reb, i chat sometimes during a game.. If i'm not sure whether my opponent can speak or understand english, i use a translator, and wish them a good game in their own language.

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My wife is my translator kohai, she speaks 5 languages fluently! She makes this old country boy feel kinda stupid sometimes, than goodness I can beat her in chess!

RetGuvvie98 wrote:

hey Reb,  tell her: 

 

     If you have something you really value, let it free.  If it comes back to you, it was yours and will remain so.  If it does not come back, it never was yours, although you thought it was.   [best that your illusion is over.]

 

 

remind her that you are with her from choice, not from force, and you CHOOSE HER for your favorite because of her unselfish attitude.......

 

 

 

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I already "explained" to her that just cause you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't read the menu!  That didnt go over real well though. 

Reb wrote: kohai wrote: LOL Reb, i chat sometimes during a game.. If i'm not sure whether my opponent can speak or understand english, i use a translator, and wish them a good game in their own language.

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My wife is my translator kohai, she speaks 5 languages fluently! She makes this old country boy feel kinda stupid sometimes, than goodness I can beat her in chess!

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So she's the one who wrote this?

She is the one that plays and chats and translates. Who is a man married and doesn't know the wife is in charge? Poor Reb a Southern Man beaten by the Yankees and Spain, :( His last bastion of masculintiy is to say he is a NM while we know who is pulling the strings Pinnochio :))-

ajachi - Reb was telling me his wife is a translator and speaks 5 languages

Reb wrote: RetGuvvie98 wrote:

hey Reb,  tell her: 

 

     If you have something you really value, let it free.  If it comes back to you, it was yours and will remain so.  If it does not come back, it never was yours, although you thought it was.   [best that your illusion is over.]

 

 

remind her that you are with her from choice, not from force, and you CHOOSE HER for your favorite because of her unselfish attitude.......

 

 

 

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I already "explained" to her that just cause you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't read the menu!  That didnt go over real well though. 

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doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home.

ajachi wrote: Reb wrote: kohai wrote: LOL Reb, i chat sometimes during a game.. If i'm not sure whether my opponent can speak or understand english, i use a translator, and wish them a good game in their own language.

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My wife is my translator kohai, she speaks 5 languages fluently! She makes this old country boy feel kinda stupid sometimes, than goodness I can beat her in chess!

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So she's the one who wrote this?

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No, I speak English and only English. I am an American living in Portugal. My wife is not a translator by profession but she acts as my personal translator when we travel. However, when we go to German speaking countries we are both at a loss. 

I'm lucky on that score Reb, i do speak German, but still rely on babel translator for most other languages