On your online chess page, click on settings, and uncheck auto-win opn time. I dont think this works for tournament games.

ok i found it! no i dont think its really fair, were still in the opening, and hes most probably forgot about his games because of new year.. And i just want a good game, so.. 

you're a sport Bamboozel :)

i guess :)

who cares about points anyway? 

According to a comment from Erik (2nd comment in the linked thread), if you have left the box for automatic win on time unchecked, the opponent has a maximum of 90 days to make their move before they will still lose automatically.

http://www.chess.com/forum/view/help-support/avoiding-the-win-on-time

yea ok 90 days is enough :)