Hello...awhile back, I tried to drop a friend, not for mean purposes, but just because we had played our game and hadn't talked as much, and I wasn't really concered about when he was on anymore -- I got a note back from him saying "hey, what gives?" and i wondered if he was notified when I dropped him.  If so, is there anyway to fix this, so it's a bit more anonymous?  Or, am I way off track here...?

hrmm. i don't think you are notified!! perhaps he just saw you online. why don't you friend me, then i'll drop you. (then you can add me back if you want to ;) )

erik, people on the friends list aren't notified if they are removed..

Knightnothorse, your friend probably just noticed you weren't on his "friends list" and assumed you had removed him from yours. I've added and dropped, and been .. and never been notified..  

I would like to know the answer to this question too so please tell me what happens!

That is good, but if I drop someone from my friend's list, am I automatically removed from theirs?  Maybe that is how they found out...?

EDIT: yes, this is how it works -- see the next post describing my experiment with Erik.... 

Yup, that is how it works, from my experiment with Erik -- here's the scoop: 

I sent him a request to be a friend, he accepted.  I then saw him on my friend's list.  He then dropped me, and when I refreshed my screen a few minutes later, he dropped from my list.  Therefore, because of his actions, and due to the fact that I did no actions, when he disappeared from my friend's list, I correctly assumed he dropped me.  Hope this makes sense.

Now, is there a way that when you drop someone as a friend, that you do not disappear from their friend list (and therefore eliminate inadvertently telling them that you dropped them)?

KnightNotHorse wrote:

Now, is there a way that when you drop someone as a friend, that you do not disappear from their friend list (and therefore eliminate inadvertently telling them that you dropped them)?

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 nope :) that might be how friendships work in the real world, but not here ;)

It sounds like you need to just block them after you drop them...can you block them? anyway, that would stop the messages from them, it sounds like you are just wanting to avoid any type of confrontation with them.

 

Nah ur not notified, the day u dropped me and I sent ya a message it was becuase I didnt see you on my list when I was checking it out :)   If u know who u have on it  u can tell if u have been ditched lol   But now I have ya back on it, remove me again and i will know lol   :))