Why do people change thier attitude so quickly?you meet very nice people every day,better you have your friends,what makes the human mind to change from one moment to an other to treat you as an equall and sudenlly,bang they simply do not contact you,ignore you without an explanation,leaving one in doubt or worse suspicion?

Don't blame them,perhaps your behaviour made them change.

i don't know, but i doubt Chess.com customer support can answer that ;P

I agree,lol

as someone I forgot about always said "People don't change. Emotions do."

which practically means your left brain doesn't change as much as your right brain, and is completely useless only to remember that about the brains :))

thegab03 wrote: Why do people change thier attitude so quickly? ... sudenlly, bang they simply do not contact you,ignore you without an explanation, leaving one in doubt or worse suspicion?

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I think that Bang! may give us a clue. It could point to a possible cause for their silence:

• their mobile phone exploded
  
• spontaneous combustion
  
• their car got a puncture
  
• someone shot at them and they have gone into hiding
  
• they are at a fireworks party
  
• they have drunk too much champagne and are hung over

Sometimes there's not a real change,feelings are the same but the person is somehow forced to act different due to a determined behaviour from the other person.

I think it's our brain chemistry...  If you imagine in the wild you could be sleeping one moment and running from a bear the next.  Our brains can change speed rapidly and sometimes probably for good (permanently).  I've read about well behaved chimps who attack and kill their owners with no history of violence.  Our brains probably aren't designed to have others in mind as much as society requires.  I think we're designed to be quite a bit more self serving than social norms and mores would indicate.  We like to pretend that we're very sophisticated because we have air conditioning and DVDs, but in reality if you took all that stuff away (like farming and housing and culture) and watched our behaviour it wouldn't seem all that different from other primates.  I think that our intelligence and ability to communicate leads us to believe that we can forge longer more meaningful relationships and to some agree I'm sure it does.  In the long run, however, it's not likely that most of those relationships are self-serving to both parties and at the instant that one party is no longer benefiting they're gone.  But what do I know.  I'm certainly not an anthropologist.

Anthony

What's all this have to do with chess?

Do you ask the same question in all threads not related to chess?

They all tried to skip out in their "loans",,, now they all hang out with Jimmy Hoffa.

People away USA perhaps don't know Jimmy Hoffa...

http://www.trutv.com/library/crime/notorious_murders/famous/jimmy_hoffa/1.html

 

Problem solved!

Good idea,lol

uhhhhhhhhh.... The link? or how I should deal  with  deadbeats??? LL

erik wrote:

i don't know, but i doubt Chess.com customer support can answer that ;P

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 Let the people decide(freedom of speach),for it is not just regesterd players that answer(free publicity),others that surf can and do come across these forums out of pure curiosty,or maybe they want to put in thier two cents worth,so as to Chess.com customer support?who gives a damn?

It"s just a simple topic that touches my heart and maybe others,I thank the above all for thier honesty and frankness,for are we the ones that are being surpressed?

No,master says"Sit"one must sit?Screw that,I teach you like the dog that you are,thou shalt never change my way of being,for I am!!

If that upsets you people,well just post it here,if not ,you know what to do...................??????

Live and let live,forgive and forget...........T.B.C!

I rule!

artfizz wrote:

thegab03 wrote: Why do people change thier attitude so quickly? ... sudenlly, bang they simply do not contact you,ignore you without an explanation, leaving one in doubt or worse suspicion?

 

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I think that Bang! may give us a clue. It could point to a possible cause for their silence:

 

their mobile phone exploded
spontaneous combustion
their car got a puncture
someone shot at them and they have gone into hiding
they are at a fireworks party
they have drunk too much champagne and are hung over

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 Or maybe they are just human sapiens,like you!!!

EagleHeart wrote:

What's all this have to do with chess?

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 Why do you ask?

In order to find out?

Or is that to complicated for your intelligent observation?

Very good question!maybe I should ask the CC community,if I already have not!!!

kingchild wrote:

Sometimes there's not a real change,feelings are the same but the person is somehow forced to act different due to a determined behaviour from the other person.

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 Is that your personal experience or just easy english words that one can easily put together to soulage ones concious!

thegab03.

Winston Churchill once said (during the WW2):

"There are people --- and there are assholes (quasi-people that have not managed to differentiate their asses from the hole in the ground); so, if people try relate (understand, talk, listen, etc.) to assholes, they loose --- and inverse. And the bridge doesn't exist. For, if that bridge as a matter of a fact did exist, we would not have those experiences you are describing. In my own opinion we are all part people part assholes, eh, and part chess players, eh, and the part that is the chess player is also part people and part asshole, eh, and the parts people and asshole are likewise distributed into the split of people and asshole. No medicine can change that, in fact change anything, except, perhaps, that it enables assholes to screw money out of people whose people parts, for some whatever reason, believe that medicines neatly and swiftly transforms asshole parts into people parts. So the blooody battle will go on and on."

Full of fraud that quote. :)