is it possible to turn off c/moves,,in & out going

no - why would you? it's just someone else's move :)

i love it,i am playing with player who doesnt like it,i thought we could as you can at other sites,just thought i couldnt find it

you mean premoves or conditionals? those are two different things... (one is live chess, other is correspondence)

please can we have a button to turn off conditional moves?

Well, it's surely reasonable to disable your own ability to make conditional moves, but shut off your opponent's? Why?

 Why? because some of us like to play the old fashioned way without conditional  moves.

Raweyes did Kasparov use conditional moves when he was champion of the world?

in his head he did

Of course not, but (honestly) I asked this previously and will do it again without any means of personal attacks: did Kasparov play online in the safety of his home? Did his opponents take almost three days to make moves? I hardly believe the example applies here, Zhane.

I understand it annoys you, but stallers (who think they're having a thrill at prolonging an obviously lost game) annoy me.

That's what I would have thought...

What difference do conditional moves make for you? So what if your opponent uses a tool to make the game go faster, you still get the same amount of time to think for each move.

As for the "old fashioned" argument, correspondence chess (which is what Online chess evolved from) has always had conditional moves, people would write if/then statements on the post cards. 

 in his head,its called thinking ahead,how many moves ahead do you have at any 1 time

"correspondence chess (which is what Online chess evolved from) has always had conditional moves, people would write if/then statements on the post cards. "

100% correct.

I think we should make it mandatory to ask our opponents if they are going to use conditional moves for all the game.

"turn off conditional moves "

Maybe some would like that cause they would like a break while their oppo.. plays back if he isnt online.

You haven't provided any decent reasons as to why that should happen so far.

Some of the opponents I've played have given some underhanded reasons to play conditional moves.

I would make exceptions for my friends.

The other option is not worth saying.

right unless u on pressure  that ball in your courtyard  and need to prolong game  and need more time  your and oppo.. if he not on line

something  more important  a cancel button that will cancel submit or any other move as long as oppo... not replied made their move.

I love conditional moves! I used it many times, in order to game go faster. What  the diference it  makes to anyone if I play a move now or in several hours...

There's really no difference between your opponent being online and responding immediately with a move and using a conditional move to simulate that.  My use of conditional moves in no way obligates you to respond immediately, if you want to take your full time you're free to do that -- just move onto your next game.

There's no way my opponent should have the ability to hinder my ability to use the features of this site

Perhaps a compronise would be to allow users to choose to have their game move to the next available by default as opposed to staying on the current game when a conditional move is triggered as is currently done.  That way they'd never even really know it had happened.