There is a bug with the live chess indicator.

http://www.chess.com/forum/view/community/reward-free-platinum-membership-and-1-year-of-chess-mentor

"Somehow people are exiting Live Chess without the system recognizing that you are gone, leaving you in a permanent  state."

Whether or not this is the problem here, there are many distractions on the site. One possible solution is to play those who do not browse the forums do not train do not whatever when there are games waiting. 

It is not often used but tournament directors can specify a Max Avg Time/Move to disallow those who are too distracted or who are not online very much.

Who cares? Once you get to playing more than 20 games at once (you definitely should), then you won't notice the ill-mannered folk who have no sportsmanship.

just play the game and stop whinning

LasUnicorn...  be careful..  I know where you live...LOL

yes But I know where you sleep and with whom you sleep with BEWARE

I hope people realize we're married..   oh... to each other..  LOL... luv ya

yah right I'm married to a whinning old lady

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You all need professional help...Get a motel room  LOL  Oh and BTW I am related too :)  I am the wonderful, special daughter in law Now BACK TO CHESSSSS!!!!!!1