May I ask something ?

Why are there so few players who are polite ? I always say hello, just that (the minimum, I think). I receive an answer from about 10% of the players... Some disable chat, without saying anything ! I blacklist them, but I don't understand......

Can you explain me ? Thank you !


  • 6 months ago


    You are responsible for your own behavior. If you value civility, practice civility. Trying to police the behavior of other people is a fool's errand and a waste of energy. You will never be in control of the choices of others; invest your effort where it can be put to good use.  

    Some of us prefer to just play. This is a competetive enterprise. Getting to know you and say hello dulls the edge for some of us. 


    Best of luck to you. 

  • 7 months ago


    fuck u delete my account

  • 22 months ago


    This person has serious issues.. most people here are rude so o block chat i am here to just play.. papuss if u cant handle it them ur in the wrng place u are extremely rude yourself and i think is only reason u want to chat ao u can run ur mouth if u win If u do not have real friends then i feel sorry for u ,, get a life idiot

  • 2 years ago


    I agree with most people here that say you are not polite at all but a very rude person yourself .. I didn't see your "hello" but you assumed I did not answer you back and tell me "no hello, no rematch" .. what a baby! And when I told you to beat it, you left me a nasty message on my profile that obviously show your low level so I deleted it and blocked you .. you are such a hypocrite and a cry baby!! I suggest you join social sites if you are that desperate to chat, clearly chess is not for you ..

  • 2 years ago


    Your'e actually talking about politeness?

    Any of the readers is welcomed to my page and see this person called me "cr@p" and "A$$h0le" with no prior interaction.

    You are indeed a disgrace.

  • 3 years ago


    I am a very polite person, but have disabled my chat for all live games because I've had too many opponents who either use it to badger me for a draw when they are losing or to be rude.  Unfortunately that means that I can't thank people for a good game, etc. Maybe Chess.com will come up with a better way to flag poor sports.

  • 4 years ago


    HourraPapa, I understand that manners and politeness are of high importance to you when you interact with others and that when your politeness is not reciprocated you do get offended.What you may fail to realise, is that during bullet games of chess the time to engage in politeness isn't always available, or utilised in a more appeasing manner to your sentiments relating to your passionate desire to have your politeness reciprocated in kind.

    What I would suggest, is making more real friends, in the real world.However, you could play longer games so that you can engage in the desired level of politeness you think is appropriate and acceptable to your needs.

  • 4 years ago


  • 4 years ago


    Ok, Nimzoroy, thank you for the answer.

    Sure I am here for playing, not for chatting. But politeness... Just one word, or two, I don't ask something so difficult, I guess...........

    And you are entirely right, Crookedmiles. Internet gives the possibility to be a poor guy, without any social sanction... My opinion about mankind (myself included sure) is worst, day after day...


  • 4 years ago


    Are you talking about live chess and/or turn-based chess? Almost all my experience here is with turn-based chess and few players say hello and many don't respond to my hello. OK some people don't read english and others may never look at chat, but overall I guess many members are here to play chess and not chat at all.

    BTW I think your question would have been more appropriate in a forum such as "general chess discussion" you'd probably get more replies in a forum next time.

  • 4 years ago


    I agree with you in general.  However, I do think the type of game makes a big difference.  For example, a 1 minute or 2min+1 game is so fast, that most people just bounce from game to game to maximiaze the number of games played and there really isn't much time for the niceties.  A "GG" at the end is about all most players will usually say, if the game really was well fought.  That said, the slower games should command a much higher degree of civility and politeness - no excuse not to.

    What kills me is the many players who intentionally walk away from a game in a clearly lost position with alot of time left on the clock.  I block them (after the time wasted to close out the game), but there seems to be no end to them.  Classic sore loser, poor sportmanship.

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