Listen Before You Speak

Listen first, speak second. The reason for this is because, again, you’re in a partnership. You can’t just forget the fact that your partner is less experienced than you and just try and do something difficult, hauling her around the dance floor. She’s not going to have a good time and it’s not going to look very good on your part. On top of that, you’re probably not gonna have much fun either because she won’t be able to read the signals you’re giving her. Don’t be one of those leads that’s always thinking about themselves and just trying to look cool. There’s too many of those people out there. What you want to develop is a sense of empathy — a sense of connectedness — to your partner. Again, listen to what your partner is saying to you with their body. Pay attention to how they hold themselves, what seems comfortable to them, what doesn’t seem comfortable for them so that you can adjust and have a more fun, fulfilled and connected dance. At the end of the day, that’s all we really want.