i just got diagnosed with tuberculosis and just found out it affect my stamina
i used to play like 1 hour of chess and right now i can only play 15 min because i got tired easily
my doctor told me i should rest and stop playing chess for a while because he say chess is a competitive game and might cause stress he's right tho. I just felt sad because playing chess is like they way i cope because i was enjoying and having fun not thinking seriously sometimes i throw my game to play romantic chess but still lose xD and right now i felt like online chess is to competitive or maybe is just i get tired so easily. So i just decided to maybe take break from chess to focus on my recovery
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i just got diagnosed with tuberculosis and just found out it affect my stamina
i used to play like 1 hour of chess and right now i can only play 15 min because i got tired easily
my doctor told me i should rest and stop playing chess for a while because he say chess is a competitive game and might cause stress he's right tho. I just felt sad because playing chess is like they way i cope because i was enjoying and having fun not thinking seriously sometimes i throw my game to play romantic chess but still lose xD and right now i felt like online chess is to competitive or maybe is just i get tired so easily. So i just decided to maybe take break from chess to focus on my recovery
That's terrible, I'm sorry you're going through that. I hope you get better soon with the antibiotics, you'll have a lot of time for chess in the future, for now, focus on recovering. You can still read and watch chess though, maybe watching some championship commentary and Hans getting angry at Magnus can serve as some sort of comfort in the meanwhile
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i just got diagnosed with tuberculosis and just found out it affect my stamina
i used to play like 1 hour of chess and right now i can only play 15 min because i got tired easily
my doctor told me i should rest and stop playing chess for a while because he say chess is a competitive game and might cause stress he's right tho. I just felt sad because playing chess is like they way i cope because i was enjoying and having fun not thinking seriously sometimes i throw my game to play romantic chess but still lose xD and right now i felt like online chess is to competitive or maybe is just i get tired so easily. So i just decided to maybe take break from chess to focus on my recovery
I know you’ll get through these hard times, mate. Hopefully you’ll feel much better soon, and, in the meantime, doing a puzzle or two a day would be a nice way to keep your chess game going. I would say that taking a break from live chess was the right decision, and, again, I hope you feel better soon.
chess causes stress, win or lose
if u don't find an outlet for that stress, you could become sick or even die
Jul 20, 2025
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I freaking hate losing nowadays. Nothing is going right in my life. Lost my job and my will to succeed.
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I freaking hate losing nowadays. Nothing is going right in my life. Lost my job and my will to succeed.
If you need someone to talk to, send me a dm, it sounds like you're having a bad time, hopefully even if just venting helps feel free to text me
Jul 30, 2025
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For me, I feel like I’m losing my love for Chess. Tilt is hard, and it really takes a toll on me every time I lose. I have taken multiple breaks and now only play on Sundays(due to the Swiss).
This doesn’t work, and I feel like a mad man when I lose a game of chess. Sometimes I even have breakdowns when I blunder easy positions. I guess I have to hold on until September, or until I rediscover my love for chess.
But really, is there any positive side to this? I don’t know if this is tilt or stress. Either way, I’m still disappointed in myself and I feel as if I should try harder. All methods I have tried didn’t work, and all they do is make the thing worse.
School has been horrible as well. The entire place as been literally infested by troublemakers and no one wants to study. Myself and a few friends of mine actually listen, while the rest muck about like headless horses.
But, I have a really hard decision to make after October. It all depends on my studies and my well-being. If anyone could help, that would be nice
(Please don’t mind the colours and italics as my phone is quite glitchy today lol)
Quick upd on this. I’ve recovered!!! Im back from recovering (from tilt) and hope to be more active!
Jul 31, 2025
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For me, I feel like I’m losing my love for Chess. Tilt is hard, and it really takes a toll on me every time I lose. I have taken multiple breaks and now only play on Sundays(due to the Swiss).
This doesn’t work, and I feel like a mad man when I lose a game of chess. Sometimes I even have breakdowns when I blunder easy positions. I guess I have to hold on until September, or until I rediscover my love for chess.
But really, is there any positive side to this? I don’t know if this is tilt or stress. Either way, I’m still disappointed in myself and I feel as if I should try harder. All methods I have tried didn’t work, and all they do is make the thing worse.
School has been horrible as well. The entire place as been literally infested by troublemakers and no one wants to study. Myself and a few friends of mine actually listen, while the rest muck about like headless horses.
But, I have a really hard decision to make after October. It all depends on my studies and my well-being. If anyone could help, that would be nice
(Please don’t mind the colours and italics as my phone is quite glitchy today lol)
I felt this way many times, despite playing for only 7-8 months. The way I overcame this was by attending a few OTB tournaments, barely playing any online chess in between. Meeting many new people who share your love for the royal game is an unmatched emotion, I barely talk to anyone besides my opponents, and sometimes their friends, but it's still a vibe lol. I recommend you try entering some local tournaments with no entry fee or a really cheap one.
Jul 31, 2025
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Not strictly chess related, but I slightly regret putting up a profile picture because every few games I play the opponent makes an attempt to flirt, a "hi beautiful", or something that is just kind of creepy. I thought by putting a picture up I would look more like a real human player and make some friends, but it's mostly just people making advances. I thought this wouldnt be a problem since in MOBAs, WoW, Overwatch, Magic the Gathering and other multiplayer games I played, while yes there were still people who might say something inappropriate or rude, most of the time people didn't treat you too differently.
(I changed my status to what it currently is now to see if it would either lower the incidences or to see if anyone would actually hang their queen. It has lowered incidences of weird messages, but i hate that I have to put up a snarky message for people to not engage inappropriately)
Jul 31, 2025
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Not strictly chess related, but I slightly regret putting up a profile picture because every few games I play the opponent makes an attempt to flirt, a "hi beautiful", or something that is just kind of creepy. I thought by putting a picture up I would look more like a real human player and make some friends, but it's mostly just people making advances. I thought this wouldnt be a problem since in MOBAs, WoW, Overwatch, Magic the Gathering and other multiplayer games I played, while yes there were still people who might say something inappropriate or rude, most of the time people didn't treat you too differently.
(I changed my status to what it currently is now to see if it would either lower the incidences or to see if anyone would actually hang their queen. It has lowered incidences of weird messages, but i hate that I have to put up a snarky message for people to not engage inappropriately)
Hey, hey,
I am a woman, and it took a long time before I disclosed my gender because I also didn't want to deal with this kind of behavior. From my point of view, it is both creepy and inappropriate and just isn't okay in this setting, especially given how many minors are here. I'm sorry you have to deal with it. The other goofy thing I deal with, as I don't have a profile pic, is people assuming I am a dude, lol. I have been called brah more times than I can count, lol. Anyways, hang in there.
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Not strictly chess related, but I slightly regret putting up a profile picture because every few games I play the opponent makes an attempt to flirt, a "hi beautiful", or something that is just kind of creepy. I thought by putting a picture up I would look more like a real human player and make some friends, but it's mostly just people making advances. I thought this wouldnt be a problem since in MOBAs, WoW, Overwatch, Magic the Gathering and other multiplayer games I played, while yes there were still people who might say something inappropriate or rude, most of the time people didn't treat you too differently.
(I changed my status to what it currently is now to see if it would either lower the incidences or to see if anyone would actually hang their queen. It has lowered incidences of weird messages, but i hate that I have to put up a snarky message for people to not engage inappropriately)
has happened to several of my friends, my ex gf just puts male usernames now which sucks but I guess the online world is awful, there are almost no penalties for harassment. I'm sorry you had to go thru that
Jul 31, 2025
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Hey, hey,
I am a woman, and it took a long time before I disclosed my gender because I also didn't want to deal with this kind of behavior. From my point of view, it is both creepy and inappropriate and just isn't okay in this setting, especially given how many minors are here. I'm sorry you have to deal with it. The other goofy thing I deal with, as I don't have a profile pic, is people assuming I am a dude, lol. I have been called brah more times than I can count, lol. Anyways, hang in there.
I didn't even think of the fact that unless you mention your age there is no way of telling if someone is a minor or not here. I to some extent understand that people are lonely like @esliwga stated, but this isn't really the place for it (and tbh even on dating apps or in the bar its good to start a real conversation first because having some chill goes a long way). To be honest, the more innocent attempts like "hi beautifful" isn't the worst and there have been more inappropriate and downright creepy messages that I don't think anyone should have to deal with. There's a difference between a friendly but lacking social awareness attempt at shooting your shot and "why would you think anyone would respond positively to this?"
Also it's not that normal, as stated, I play a lot of games who's playerbase is primarily men that are known to have a very toxic playerbase, but in those spaces at least the toxicity isn't gender specific. As mentioned the funny thing is, it did stop once I put in my profile that "they're not flirting if they'dont hang their queen".
Side note, in another forum there is a person who refers to people of unknown gender as he/him/his even if their profile picture is of a woman with a username that included a woman's name and your anecdote about people assuming you're a dude reminded me of that. 
Jul 31, 2025
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Hey, hey,
I am a woman, and it took a long time before I disclosed my gender because I also didn't want to deal with this kind of behavior. From my point of view, it is both creepy and inappropriate and just isn't okay in this setting, especially given how many minors are here. I'm sorry you have to deal with it. The other goofy thing I deal with, as I don't have a profile pic, is people assuming I am a dude, lol. I have been called brah more times than I can count, lol. Anyways, hang in there.
I didn't even think of the fact that unless you mention your age there is no way of telling if someone is a minor or not here. I to some extent understand that people are lonely like @esliwga stated, but this isn't really the place for it (and tbh even on dating apps or in the bar its good to start a real conversation first because having some chill goes a long way). To be honest, the more innocent attempts like "hi beautifful" isn't the worst and there have been more inappropriate and downright creepy messages that I don't think anyone should have to deal with. There's a difference between a friendly but lacking social awareness attempt at shooting your shot and "why would you think anyone would respond positively to this?"
Also it's not that normal, as stated, I play a lot of games who's playerbase is primarily men that are known to have a very toxic playerbase, but in those spaces at least the toxicity isn't gender specific.
Side note, in another forum there is a person who refers to people of unknown gender as he/him/his even if their profile picture is of a woman with a username that included a woman's name and your anecdote about people assuming you're a dude reminded me of that.
I'm just trying to be the sideless mediator here. People are lonely, I was lonely and I've heard many disgusting pick up lines, so I get both sides.
"Also it's not that normal, as stated, I play a lot of games who's playerbase is primarily men that are known to have a very toxic playerbase, but in those spaces at least the toxicity isn't gender specific." - It rarely is real toxicity, most of the time it's just meant as a harmless teasing, in a boys kinda way.
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Not strictly chess related, but I slightly regret putting up a profile picture because every few games I play the opponent makes an attempt to flirt, a "hi beautiful", or something that is just kind of creepy. I thought by putting a picture up I would look more like a real human player and make some friends, but it's mostly just people making advances. I thought this wouldnt be a problem since in MOBAs, WoW, Overwatch, Magic the Gathering and other multiplayer games I played, while yes there were still people who might say something inappropriate or rude, most of the time people didn't treat you too differently.
(I changed my status to what it currently is now to see if it would either lower the incidences or to see if anyone would actually hang their queen. It has lowered incidences of weird messages, but i hate that I have to put up a snarky message for people to not engage inappropriately)
There’s a setting u can turn on to block chat
u can turn it back off when ur on chess social
idk wht it is but there should be a setting
Or just block ur opponent at the start of the game
I think you guys are missing the point, it's not that they can't do anything to block or report those players, it's about it shouldn't happen in the first place.
Aug 1, 2025
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I think blocking opponents immediately before they've done anything wrong is throwing the baby out with the bathwater. There are also of people who chat appropriately.
Although is there a setting to block out of game messages from non-friends or people who aren't from certain Clubs? I think having granular control would be nice because there are some clubs with people that I welcome messages from and messages from those club members are usually strictly chess related.
I have finally started to see what tilt is like. I can normally play around ten rapid games in a row without much exhaustion, but the last couple days I’ve seen a gigantic drop in my enthusiasm for chess and my ability to see tactics. For some reason, it’s also counterpointed by an overall increase in my mental health and ability to focus.
I hit a plateau yesterday, just below 1000 elo, and have now dropped well below that number. It’s hard for me to see that number and not think that my efforts put into improving might be in vain, but I do realize that, for me, chess is a game and an art.
If anyone has any thoughts for getting out of tilt or switching from tactical to positional play, please let me know. I’d love to hear your advice on this.
I can understand that as only recently have been on a bad run of games losing rating and frustration. Realized was trying to play 3 a day and didn’t accomplish that as played more, badly, focus mistakes and just not good. Realized playing time was limited to late evening which isn’t good but all I had available. So took a few days off, am shifting to 1 rapid at a time with a solid review of each game. Hoping that along with my daily tactics will help level things out again. Also am reviewing some games from some books to frankly just enjoy seeing how the game can be played and hoping that as well will be helpful for me.