Returning rematches.

GriffiN75

So I have basically always accepted rematches unless I have to go or I really need to take a break from chess, and even when I decline I will first tell my opponent why.  However, sometimes I will win the first game against someone and they ask for a rematch and I accept. Then they win the second game and I ask for a rematch and they decline without leaving a note why. Not only that but the second opponent I faced we ended up playing each other again not because of the rematch request but because we got paired up randomly. Then he waited until the time he automatically aborts the game just so that he didn't need to play me. Although this is quite rare, it happened to me two times in a row today and it made me super displeased. I can't really describe the feeling in a few words but I think it is something like being robbed. I guess this is not really a problem and more of an inconvenience, but it is still fairly rude.

janpiotr

Hi Griffin

Unfortunately sometimes people have to go suddenly for non chess reasons

All the Best

rabbitAAAA

Those people may not want a rematch. It is perfectly okay to decline one without a reason why. Probably after that in the random pairing, he or she disconnected aborted because of the rating difference

GriffiN75
janpiotr wrote:

Hi Griffin

Unfortunately sometimes people have to go suddenly for non chess reasons

All the Best

This is obviously understandable but I think they should at least leave a message about why which many have done. Some also send me a friend request and tell me that we can play again another time.

GriffiN75
rabbitAAAA wrote:

Those people may not want a rematch. It is perfectly okay to decline one without a reason why. Probably after that in the random pairing, he or she disconnected aborted because of the rating difference

 It is extremely disrespectful to decline a rematch after the opponent had just accepted yours without letting them know why. its basically the same as if for example you forgot to bring something to school and you ask your friend if you could borrow it. They let you borrow it and the next time they forget to bring it and they ask you if they could borrow it. Not letting them is basically the same as declining a rematch after the opponent just accepted yours. If the rating difference is too high, why would they not abort the first two games they just played with you?

GriffiN75
unbelievable11111 wrote:

It is not a problem. Poverty and hunger are problems. It is a game of chess, not the meaning of the bleeding universe. Get your life in perspective.

I guess it's not really a problem, more of an inconvenience. However, there's a reason why I posted this under chess.com community on a chess website, not on news source or something under global issues. Just because it's a game of chess doesn't mean i can't complain. This is a chess server and there is a reason why there are the moderators. They are supposed to make chess.com a more friendly and enjoyable environment. After looking at your profile, i can tell that you are new to chess.com and therefore you do not take chess very seriously. That's why you probably won't care that much. If your opinion is that anyone who posts something about a chess problem doesn't have life in their perspective, go ahead, post it on every other forum like this and see how they react.

bong711

I understand you treated your opponent respectfully and fair. You can't expect the same reciprocation. Be happy he didn't abandon a game.

Khallyx
GriffiN75 wrote:

So I have basically always accepted rematches unless I have to go or I really need to take a break from chess, and even when I decline I will first tell my opponent why. Most of the time my opponent will also do the same for me when I ask for a rematch but some people will decline without telling me why. Although I can sometimes get angry or frustrated about this, it is not what frustrates me the most. Instead it is when I win the first game against someone and they ask for a rematch and I accept. Then they win the second game and I ask for a rematch and they decline without leaving a note why. Not only that but the second opponent I faced we ended up playing each other again not because of the rematch request but because we got paired up randomly. Then he waited until the time he automatically aborts the game. Although this is quite rare, it happened to me two times in a row today and it made me super displeased. I would like to know if anyone else who had this happen to them feel this way and if they had any solutions to this problem.

My tip is to stop being immature.

GriffiN75
Khallyx wrote:
GriffiN75 wrote:

So I have basically always accepted rematches unless I have to go or I really need to take a break from chess, and even when I decline I will first tell my opponent why. Most of the time my opponent will also do the same for me when I ask for a rematch but some people will decline without telling me why. Although I can sometimes get angry or frustrated about this, it is not what frustrates me the most. Instead it is when I win the first game against someone and they ask for a rematch and I accept. Then they win the second game and I ask for a rematch and they decline without leaving a note why. Not only that but the second opponent I faced we ended up playing each other again not because of the rematch request but because we got paired up randomly. Then he waited until the time he automatically aborts the game. Although this is quite rare, it happened to me two times in a row today and it made me super displeased. I would like to know if anyone else who had this happen to them feel this way and if they had any solutions to this problem.

My tip is to stop being immature.

So its ok to decline a rematch after the opponent accepted yours?

Khallyx

Yes.

GriffiN75
Khallyx wrote:

Yes.

Isn't that kind of unfair.

GriffiN75
bong711 wrote:

I understand you treated your opponent respectfully and fair. You can't expect the same reciprocation. Be happy he didn't abandon a game.

I guess you have a point.

Osfan37

Nobody owes anyone a rematch. Get over yourselves.

GriffiN75

I know that it is not required to give a rematch just because your opponent accepted yours but it is probably the most ethical thing to do unless you have to go. 

rabbitAAAA

Yes, it's nice that you are trying to be "ethical", but sometimes you do not need to be.