Lighten Up Dummy ! Take It Easy & Calm Down Pal !

badenwurtca

Yes do try to not get all worked up over a game !!! We have all bumped into them, " The Serious People ". They play a few games of some type ( Chess, Monopoly, Lawn Bowling, Golf, Cribbage, Baseball, Darts etc etc ) and all of a sudden they start to carry on as though the World Championship was on the line. Now of course we all want to be good at something but at the same time not everyone in the world gets to be a " Big Deal ". So if you are just going to be average at something ( Oh say Chess for example ) then try to enjoy what you are doing and have " FUN " with it for goodness sakes.  

badenwurtca

Or to put it another way we cannot spend all of our time being involved in Rocket Physics, Brain Science or Nuclear Surgery   lol. Yes we do need to relax and have some fun as well however if our hobbies also create stress then when do we get to decompress ?

Heather_Stephens

Wise words. 

badenwurtca
Heather_Stephens wrote:

Wise words. 

   ---   Thanks for the post.

badenwurtca

Of course we must separate the " Pretenders " from the " Contenders ". Those people who may have the talent, ability and dedication to someday reach the CM level ( forget GM level, start small  lol ) should be encouraged to be serious in their games, but they are a rare breed. To use a Golf comparison, ask yourself how many people would have the talent to play in pro-tournaments with Tiger Woods ( hint: the Green Jackets Do Not grow on trees ).     

ghost_of_pushwood

Hey cab, thanks for the post! grin.png  And btw isn't it kinda like another one of your threads (from long ago)...?

Incidentally, though I too bear the Scarlet Letters, how serious am I (with my big doofus puppethead & all)?  Admittedly, it did take me quite a while (several years--or was that decades?) of hard knocks before I finally gleaned the advantages of Lightening Up a bit... happy.png

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badenwurtca

Thanks for the new posts.

badenwurtca
ghost_of_pushwood wrote:

Hey cab, thanks for the post!   And btw isn't it kinda like another one of your threads (from long ago)...?

Incidentally, though I too bear the Scarlet Letters, how serious am I (with my big doofus puppethead & all)?  Admittedly, it did take me quite a while (several years--or was that decades?) of hard knocks before I finally gleaned the advantages of Lightening Up a bit...

   ---   Thanks a lot for the Thanks Sir ! Yes I might be repeating myself from time to time however at the same time we often see those threads where people are quite upset because another player was mean to them and/or did not accept a rematch ( OMG The Awfulness Of It ALL !!! ). This is of course why the " Blocking Feature" was built into this site. Just block the Moron and move on, there are others who are waiting to play games. If you happen to be a rather sensitive snowflake type then just activate the chat-disable feature, and Let The Games Begin !!!    

AussieRookie

Um, the way Tiger is going - Tied for 55th out of 75 in his last Tourney - would he have the talent to compete with me? happy.png

pfr

Should I quit?  Like golf, I tried for ten years, never made it above average, and it is frustrating, because I am used to succeeding.  I can beat newbies, that's it. Chess intelligence is like painting a portrait to me.  I keep thinking I will learn.

ghost_of_pushwood
badenwurtca wrote:

If you happen to be a rather sensitive snowflake type     

And who isn't nowadays? grin.png

AlCzervik
pfr wrote:

Should I quit?  Like golf, I tried for ten years, never made it above average, and it is frustrating, because I am used to succeeding.  I can beat newbies, that's it. Chess intelligence is like painting a portrait to me.  I keep thinking I will learn.

golf and chess are similar in that it takes a lot of time to become "good", and, even at that level, one will be way below a level where they can become a pro by playing. 

i'm stating this as a golf professional and a chess hack that has learned how the study of chess can be consuming to where it is frustrating. there has to be a love for it and a discipline that will get one there. 

basically, if you have a passion for it, go for it.

learning is a process. one of my instructors compared a piano lesson to a golf lesson. nobody thinks they will become a good piano player after one, but golfers somehow think their faults will disappear after a single golf lesson! 

 

my frustration with players is when they take a lesson, but do not practice. this is common-"this coach sucks!" 

put in the time and you will achieve what you want.

AlCzervik
ghost_of_pushwood wrote:
badenwurtca wrote:

If you happen to be a rather sensitive snowflake type     

And who isn't nowadays?

i think you just hurt my feelings.

i will get back to you after i check in with my two shrinks, my parents, my wife, my brother, and let you know.

hopefully, one of them can tell me what the term "snowflake" refers to.

ghost_of_pushwood

And don't forget to let me know that you've finally decided it's okay because I didn't really hurt your feelings, since you've realized that I'm probably just another dateless lonely looser living in a basement somewhere who has to take out his deep-seated feelings of inadequacy on somebody else.  Oh yeah, and then be sure to end it all with:  "Have a nice day!"

ghost_of_pushwood
AlCzervik wrote:

one of my instructors compared a piano lesson to a golf lesson. nobody thinks they will become a good piano player after one, but golfers somehow think their faults will disappear after a single golf lesson! 

 

 

This reminds me of some of the guys around here who come on asking for advice.  Eventually you start to realize that what they really want is some single sentence of Kabbalah-like wisdom that's instantly gonna transform them into geniuses.

KeSetoKaiba

ghost_of_pushwood, (post #17), 

I found this to be a great comparison. I have never taken a piano lesson (nor can I play piano), but as a golf lover this was still funny to me. A friend of mine is a professional golf instructor (I seldom see him anymore) - but despite my decent golf ability, I would not want his job. I witnessed him giving lessons, in the hot sun, to people who would never break 100 - and during the lessons still seldom "got it"; I respect these instructors, but I would not want to be one. As implied, these chess.com members will probably not be world class chess players, (of course, some will/and some already are) most golfers (instructors included) are not PGA caliber and most piano players are never going to become musical sensations.

As the original poster mentions, we really should be having fun and improving our chess. Few on chess.com have reasons to take chess seriously (like say, being a titled player - where chess is basically a job), yet many chess.com players DO take chess seriously.

Maybe this says more about competitive human nature than it does about chess?

KeSetoKaiba

Actually a quote from post #14 - either way it is a good comparison. happy.png

badenwurtca

Thanks for all of the posts.