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dealing with stress

  • #1

    hi. i'm a 1200 uscf-rated player and i consider myself pretty good. the main problem is that i get really stressed out weeks before tournaments and begin to doubt myself and my pride. not to add or anything, but i'm plateauing (rating-wise) and need some help. any tips? thx guys. 

  • #2

    I used to get really stressed during tournaments. For me it just took experience. After 100 losses it's not such a big deal anymore.

    If you're getting stressed weeks before it even begins though, that sounds pretty serious.

    Maybe remind yourself what you're in control of, and what you're responsible for. You can control the moves you make, you can't control the outcome of the game. You could even say you're responsible for trying to play your best, but remember you're not responsible for getting a certain win/loss ratio. You're only responsible for what you can control.

    You're also not in control of whether or not you feel stressed tongue.png If that's your natural reaction, you can't make it go away. Everyone feels it to varying degrees. So notice your stress, acknowledge it's there, but you don't have to let it dominate you. There are visualization / meditation exercises you can preform.

    Like imagine yourself at the tournament. You're sitting across from your opponent with the board set up, the game is about to begin. Now zoom out, imagine you can see the whole room from above, and you can see all the players. Zoom out more. Now you're outside, above the building, there are a lot of people working there who have nothing to do with the tournament. There are people passing by on the street. Zoom out more until you're looking down on the whole city, and even more, you're in the clouds and now it's hard to see anything below. There's only the sky above. Now imagine time passing. You can see the sun and stars go by. A day, a week, a year... 100s of years, thousands of years. Look back down where the building of the tournament used to be. Notice how small and insignificant it was. No one even remembers it. Realize how unimportant your chess game was. No one even remembers chess existed at all.

  • #3
    roxis_24 wrote:

    hi. i'm a 1200 uscf-rated player and i consider myself pretty good. the main problem is that i get really stressed out weeks before tournaments and begin to doubt myself and my pride. not to add or anything, but i'm plateauing (rating-wise) and need some help. any tips? thx guys. 

    Have a beer.

  • #4

    I have the same problem -> although it is generally when I play against lower rated players since there is a lot more pressure to do well. Sometimes it is helpful to go through what you have achieved before a tournament, to give you a boost of confidence. Confidence is a big part of chess, and learning how to trust yourself is a tough obstacle, but when you get over it, its a huge achievement 

  • #5

    Sounds like you want to control the outcome, which will give you tons of stress since you cant control the outcome. Focus on improving your game and having fun while doing it. There is no such thing as loosing when you learn.

  • #6

    I Am Declaring War on STRESS! Denholm

     

  • #7

    Stop worrying about your rating. I was also worried about my "dignity" and rating when playing chess either online or OTB. It just ruins the experience. You need to enjoy the game to progress.

  • #8
    godsofhell1235 wrote:

     

    Like imagine yourself at the tournament. You're sitting across from your opponent with the board set up, the game is about to begin. Now zoom out, imagine you can see the whole room from above, and you can see all the players. Zoom out more. Now you're outside, above the building, there are a lot of people working there who have nothing to do with the tournament. There are people passing by on the street. Zoom out more until you're looking down on the whole city, and even more, you're in the clouds and now it's hard to see anything below. There's only the sky above. Now imagine time passing. You can see the sun and stars go by. A day, a week, a year... 100s of years, thousands of years. Look back down where the building of the tournament used to be. Notice how small and insignificant it was. No one even remembers it. Realize how unimportant your chess game was. No one even remembers chess existed at all.

    hahahaha, you can be really good if you want to depress someone lol.

     

    Let me help a bit as well (warning: if you are really smart and unstable, please don't read any further). Instead, of going as high as seeing the clouds and as forward as 100 years, lets go a bit further. Now imagine, you are seeing earth and you reach and pass the sun. Now the sun is a little dot and you are moving towards the center of the galaxy. You just past our galaxy and you are so far out that our whole galaxy takes a single pixel in your high resolution view. You are moving on for millions of years, passing galaxy after galaxy to no end. Now, billions of years have passed and everything has faded in time. Einstein? Who? The guy with the great mind that everyone thought he had succeeded immortality with his work and theories.  Who is this guy? Nobody knew him even a few hundred of thousands of years after you left the tournament site. Stephen Hawking? loool. Can you imagine how insignificant you and your actions are? Even if you become the richest human on earth and best scientist that ever lived, still in the vastness of the universe and time, you are no more than a grain of sand...

     

    now you can go outside and suicide... or not... in any case nothing will change

     

    ps: don't! just enjoy your time and don't worry your mind with trivial insignificant things, as chess and chess tourneys

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