Severe Chess Addiction

OperationOverlord

I'm no expert but I used to be "addicted to chess." Basically I was distracting myself rather than deal with _________ issue. (Fill in the blank, what are you running away from?) I was playing too much chess to relieve anxiety. The anxiety was caused because I wasn't doing what I knew I should be doing - looking for a job.

Step back, have a look at your life and see if you are "running away" from something you should deal with. For example, looking for a job, pursuing a relationship, finishing college, making positive friends, etc. 

Life is to be enjoyed.

Doing an addictive activity feels great when you're doing it but you feel bad afterward for wasting too much time doing it.

Good luck and don't beat yourself up when you slip.

 

 

 

 

BISP247

As the old saying goes... when the going gets tough, the tough quit! If life gives you lemons, quit! If your boyfriend spends all his time playing and studying chess, QUIT!

Smositional
SeniorPatzer wrote:

Confess your online blitz addiction to a trusted family member or close friend.  Ask them to hold you accountable for lapses.  Punishment to be determined.  Make the consequences just right.

 

Enjoy life, addiction-free.

This was the best advice so far.

Arangs

TS_theWoodiest எழுதியுள்ளார்:

Usually asking other addicts to help with your addiction problem is not the best idea.

well said.... LOL

ForPleasure

Hi Eliottka!

 

Why do you give the name "addiction" to your chess passion or chess love? This is the key point in my view...

You say it takes your time. Well, everything takes time in life, specially what you really love in life. It takes too much time and perhaps it implies to be outstandingly talented to become a Magnus Carlsen, so the many of us are condemned to be nothing more than "amateurs", which may give us the impression of wasting time in something that will never flourish at its highest conceivable level, at the level of perfection. Hence perhaps feeling guilty and telling oneself one should do more profitable things, such as: earning tonnes of money. No matter: it is your life.

Girlfriend, friends and family... sure they are important, sure you are also important, sure they shall understand you love in life something more than being a nice boyfriend, friend and relative. I mean: if you have a true passion, that should boost your social conduct... unless your social environment conceives not your passion as a truth in your life, it is to say: unless they hold against you you should be doing more profitable things.

Rating... Yes, that may be a problem... I mean: I do write poems, just as many people I love, because I try to get in contact with people similar to me. I know a friend who also write poems. She has spent years and years trying to have her poems rewarded by poetry prizes. And she writes fine, but she has never won a prize, which was destructing her. In the case you  may recognize yourself in my friend (out of poetry, inside of chess), just take it easy. I will give you this exemple: think of love, then think of marriage; marriage may be well, but if you do not love your partner, will a marriage make you love him or her? Now think of rating in the same way: one should love chess in the name of chess; then, if ratings, good ratings, come: great!, if they don't: no problem: are you going to love chess by means of rating?

 

I do not know whether my words will help you. Enjoy chess. If you have a passion in your life, just enjoy it.

 

Again: the point is: why do you call it an addiction?

 

Have a nice day!!

Pulpofeira

It's not about how much time you spend, to me addiction means that when you think it is time to stop, more often than not you can't.

torrubirubi
OperationOverlord wrote:

I'm no expert but I used to be "addicted to chess." Basically I was distracting myself rather than deal with _________ issue. (Fill in the blank, what are you running away from?) I was playing too much chess to relieve anxiety. The anxiety was caused because I wasn't doing what I knew I should be doing - looking for a job.

Step back, have a look at your life and see if you are "running away" from something you should deal with. For example, looking for a job, pursuing a relationship, finishing college, making positive friends, etc. 

Life is to be enjoyed.

Doing an addictive activity feels great when you're doing it but you feel bad afterward for wasting too much time doing it.

Good luck and don't beat yourself up when you slip.

 

 

 

 

Great Insight, thanks for sharing. What you say applies to many of us I guess. To me too, at least for a while. Now I play blitz very rarely. Usually  I play daily and try to enjoy even if I am losing.

Molotok89

I think this qualifies as chess addiction (or rather insanity):

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