I play chess for fun. Don't misunderstand me, I like winning a LOT more than losing. Having said this, a person can lose or draw with honor in their defeat. If they have played their best, & shown respect to the victor, then respect 'should' be given in return. This means displaying honor if we win, or if we lose. Honor is far too often found in short supply among chess players, (especially online chess players). Chess is a game of one person's mind overcoming another person's mental capacities. It is NOT a pugilistic endeavor, activity, or recreation. The battle only exists within an imaginary realm of one's mind, as represented by the chess pieces on the board.
So play with honor, and you will gain the respect that you are due. Play like a jerk, win like an idiot, or lose like a thug, and you do nothing but remove all doubt that you are a pawn in a world of kings, queens, bishops & knights, & you will always remain that way.
-------------> Always remember this important concept; A Pyrrhic victory (/ˈpɪrɪk/) is a victory with such a devastating cost that it carries the implication that another such victory will ultimately lead to defeat. Someone who wins a "Pyrrhic victory" has been victorious in some way; however, the heavy toll or the detrimental consequences negates any sense of achievement or profit. Napoleon had his Waterloo, & General Custer found hubris at Little Big Horn. An offhanded negative comment today may one day come back to haunt you, & you will find out the true definition of humility among your peers.