i am amazed by the rudeness of people

I just started a game against a guy somewhere in india and the first thing he said was 'move idiot'.... I said absolutely nothing and 3 moves later I pinned his queen to his king..he then resigned asking for a rematch and calling me a 'basted'(sic). I do not like arrogance anyway but if a person is going to be that bad they need to at least not play  like an 'idiot'

Yes i have bought into it and engaged in verbal abuse( as a response to verbal abuse)but I have never started off being abusive and I would never start calling anybody  anything insulting for no reason. Now i realize it is a part of internet tactics.....abuse/insult your opponent and he loses concentration...they do it in other sports so why not chess?

My vow is to alsways say hello and continue to thank my opponent for the game....if they abuse me my response should be to play my best game...if it is too much i can always resign ( which is what they want).

I am not a great chess player but I love the game. It is a shame that we have that in chess .com and my responsibility is to ( from now on)....just play chess...always be polite....and try and have fun. The best response to a rude player/ Beat them......I will no longer buy into the cheap tricks and the worst that can happen is I lose.....My integrity has got to be worth more than a chess loss or 10.

I like pie...

how did you pin a queen in 3 moves

At least he didn't call you a dirty baster

sorry I was using hyperbole,,,i actually won the game on the sixth move( it just seemed like 3..lol)

I was white ( king's Gambit accepted)

1)e4  e5

2)f4  exf4

3)Nf3  d5

4)exd5  Qxd5

5)Nc3  Qc6

6) Bb5...( black resigns )

+1 That's true.

@JohnKiwi Your vow is an honorable one and I wish you as much self-control as needed to keep it. Your post is an example of the mindset needed for good sportsmanship. It can be (and still is for many of us) a gentleman's game. (no gender exclusion intended by the word gentleman).

Just blocked my first rude person an couple days ago....then i went to an game they were playing and commented they were blocked....then i left and they are gone.

http://www.chess.com/livechess/game?id=498610610

Dude, you are an awesome guy and I would like to play you on day and haha! He messed with you verbally and you messed with him... chessily?.. Anyways, good on ya!

I assume THIS was the game with that guy?: http://www.chess.com/livechess/game?id=498610610

ok

To chessmaster....thanks mate,

i did not identify him because there is no need to embarass him ( he can do that himself)..... but it is not just about him, I am sure he is probably a nice guy away from internet chess....it is just this mindset that people think it is ok to be obnoxious and i am no angel.. I have been a part of the problem by responding with obnoxious comments BUT I NEVER STARTED IT....now I am saying I am not going to bother trying to defend myself I am just going to play. I do not have to apologize  for not being a fantastic player but i am a chess player and every chess player is a part of the community of people that love the game..so we all have something in common. If others have been rude to distract the opponent perhaps they too can change.....what about just 'pure chess'? Let our chess playing speak for us?

Imagine a chess world where people were polite and they played like the devil to win and then if they lost...they showed grace and style and complimented their opponent...wouldn't it be something special?

My change starts now...just chess and polite behaviour...and if a person's behaviour is too much..I will block them. Like the movie.....I am going to 'pay it forward'.... take care

I watch very hard sports like MMA (mixed martial arts) where they punch, kick, or even sometimes break body parts, blood everywhere on the face and body.

But even in a sport like this, and despite maybe they are angry to be punched, kicked and bleed, they respect one another. They seldom say something rude.

They maybe not as intelligent (but I doubt, it depends on what intelligent is), but I like their attitude.

Chess is supposed to be a sport for people with brain ( I laso doubt this), though some are brainless. It's showed in their games and attitude.

I abuse too if my opponents start it,I don't think it's wrong to give them a taste of their own medicine.

 I think it is a great idea to disable chat the moment someone starts being offensive. Do not say anything and certainly refrain from saying" I am disabling chat'..this will keep them wondering if you have got any of their messages and remember of course that when they are taking the time to type insults that is valuable time lost for them and it could come back to haunt them when it comes down to the last minute or so..... I admit to my idealism showing through but just imagine if everyone did not respond to insults and just played. The insults would certainly reduce. But I think some people like the verbal 'banter' so it will no doubt continue.... but I will not feed it.

Thanks for the post mate. I gather you are a gentle soul who dislikes engaging in childish banter with a drop kick - you are the bigger man if you choose to do that. If at times it gets too much, I see no harm in asking the doosh to shut up and warn him of block/ report.

But do you know what my motivation would be? Whoop him on the chess board and let him simmer over the loss (with no rematch option). Not going to fix his attitude but hey, we can't change all of humanity.

We can however just act bigger.

My usual response to trash talk is "Thank you, sweetie!"

i once played a player rated higher than me after beating him twice in a row i felt giving him a win on the third game would at least be a consolation for him. But when i start faltering in the endgame due to time scrambling he suddenly gave degrading remarks. So i waited till the last second to reply that i felt i hade to give him the game coz he might cry like a baby if he doesnt win anyway i was still up 2-1. I left and declinded his rematch request coz he so unpleasant. But he kept challenging and i was so happy declining and ignoring it.Poor guy

Engaging in Banter is much more interesting IMO.

I guess I'm lucky in the respect that when an opponent starts being rude to me, it strikes me as being funny! My inward (and often outward) response is just laughter. And a certain part of me feels sorry for people with no developed sense of social grace. Johnkiwi, I really like how you put this...every chessplayer is a part of the community of people who love the game. Well said! Or as the modern custom goes:

+1!