beeblebeebleblop - I am no expert, but having faced the same problem I have come to the following conclusions: 1.) It's just a game and taking risks is par for the course and part of the fun. 2.) However, don't just throw pieces to the wind. Players like vsaxena are very good at gathering information and weighing the probabilities before taking calculated risks. 3.) Openings can be selected that are not so overly timid yet are still relatively sound. 4.) Fear is good!
Just my 2 cents....
Does anyone else besides me imagine that the opponent is doing the craziest shiet on the other side of the board, does your imagination also run wild thinking that the other person is lining up against you in the perfect combination about to strike at you? I often find my self very paranoid about the opponents pieces which makes me play often too defensively and hinders my play. Does anyone else have this problem, and what about offense players what do you do to battle this fear? I was watching vsaxenas games earlier today and I saw that he had a good mix of defense and offense that seemed to work well, but I cant seem to find my rhythm .