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Thank you, this is the best advice I’ve ever read

really. defend more practice defending practice make you better. play alekhine or modern or pirc or french or caro or whatever and get a passive position, defend, and get gud

how do I stop playing moves that aren't best moves

I play the caro, all other openings are inferior 

I'm literally not even joking

spend more time analyzing defensive games.

When analyzing attacking games, analyze all possible methods for your opponent to save himself. Then, check with the engine. You will see themes.

By playing a sound opening all the time, you are limiting your chess experience.

It is like a baby raised in a sterile environment. He will be very healthy, until he gets introduced to the real world.

RICO WHY ONLY CARO

how do I play real chess

That’s a good idea, do you have any recommendations of places where I can find a collection of defensive games?

By not caring about theory. Know enough theory so that you can get yourself into an equal position. From there, just worry about playing chess and achieving strategic goals.

Your own, I'm sure

Because caro is love, caro is life

Your life is similar to that of Japan during their period of isolationism. Without keeping up with the world, they were quite surprised when the rest of the world achieved guns.

Hmmm I really need to look for defensive plan in my games and stop being a lazy @$$

Shut up

no

caro inferior even to lemming

The biggest reason why people fail to defend properly is because they fail to realize that their position calls for defensive measures. Since the proper measures aren't in place, they collapse easily.

is london the best opening 

I don’t think my reason for defending incorrectly is not realizing the danger in the position. If I see my opponent just getting slightly aggressive I panic and make a fee bad moves in a row that lead to my position crumbling fast