For example, I just had this stupid last game, still trying to get over how mad it made me. The opponent didn't talk of course silent as a mouse, tried to say good game, and laugh at my stupidity but nothing. Thier right of course but for some reason when I'm playing it makes it a lot more enjoyable when I feel like its a learning experience. Tournaments are one thing but casual play for fun, should be just that right, whats so horrible about some banter back and forth?
People online make it just seem like everyone's got a huge ego and just wants to beat people, and when I make a dumb blunder instead of being able to laugh about it I just feel like I'm playing some sadist with an ego and it's far more infuriating to lose.
That kind of stuff makes me just want to stop playing this game, and its a shame because its a fun game and when I get the chance to just enjoy it I get a lot of motivation in my own life. However, right now I have no one to play that can provide that outlet and I have no good way to learn besides playing people and chess videos. But I haven't run into anyone on here yet that even responds to chat. It's like everyone in chess made a solemn vow to throw out friendship in favour of competition and it's so gross to play in that environment.
I would really like to find a group that can get me out of that setting, the only place it makes sense is in tournaments.
But anyways here's the game with my analysis just to show about where i'm at in chess.
Hey all, I'm looking for some free help from anyone above 1500 in classical that doesn't mind working with a beginner. It doesn't have to be a huge commitment I'm just trying to find a way to learn that doesn't involve beating my head against the keyboard trying to figure out why I lose my games. It would be nice to have someone help me keep up my motivation to keep at this game.
Sometimes the biggest thing holding me back is feeling like I'm stuck in a chess community that's all competition and no sportsmanship or comradery. I like the competition aspect, but sometimes I just want to play to have fun and the anonymity of online chess makes it feel pretty empty.