Why do you shy away from playing a sound gambit? The more pawns you keep on board, the more your chances to blunder them... 
The Scotch can be "aggressive", but this isn't a rule- in some variations of it the queens leave the board very early.
Is anything better for me than the Parham?
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I have looked into that, how would you recommend replying to 4...Nf6? It seems most people exchange the knight on c6, then the wide open game is a little drawish..
Michael-G, please don't be rude. I'd just appreciate help, I don't need anybody being a jerk.
The fact that nneds a "punch" is the truth and not an insult.If he was my brother I would shake his head hard trying to make him understand.
In fact all you that act polite and "try" to help him you do more "damage" than I do.You make him think that what he says is not nonsense although it is , there is no doubt about it.We are talking about a 1300 rated player.Does anyone bothered o see his games?Because I did.How can suggesting an agressive opening to a player that doesn't understand even the basics , can help him?Someone from the polite ones please answer that.
If telling the truth and really trying to help someone to wake up is rude while lie to him and keeping him confused is polite , I will prefer to be rude.
Ok michael-g, because I am not Bobby Fischer, like I'm sure you are, I'm not allowed to get advice in chess? I just wanted help, I don't need crap from people like you who think you're the greatest player ever.
The greatest player ever , whoever he is, would tell you the same.Some of the non greatest players ever also tell you the same.The problem is that you are not able to comit your self to serious study.You are pretending that you are by doing foolish questions that others , unfortunately answer seriously.But instead of admitting that you do foolish questions , the easy solution is to call me rude.It's the solution that makes you forget that you say nonsense.
Lets' assume for a moment that I am right and you indeed say nonsense?(only for a moment , not for more)
Who is the rude and who is the polite?
If a 4 years old kid wanted to drive a car and couldn't accept that this can't happen , who would be rude?The one that would try to advise him how to drive or the one that would tell him to stop saying and acting like a fool?
Don't answer me , I don't need an answer ,answer that to yourself.
I didn't say that you say nonsense, I said you don't need to be rude. I'm pretty sure people would agree that you have been rude, so just chill out bro.
About your car thing, if you told the kid "I'm sorry, that's not legal", that would be understandable. If you told the kid "F--- off, get out of here", I don't think that's appropriate. You obviously, are the second one, so just settle down.
Also, that is a completely unapplicable scenerio. It is is illegal for a 4-year old to drive. Playing the Parham is an opening, which anyone can play. I know it doesn't follow opening rules, but here's how I think of it. In the MLB, the majority of pitchers pitch overhand. However, there are also sidearm and knuckleball pitchers. That method isn't wrong, but just not as popular.
Michael-G is right. I saw your games few minutes ago. It's not the problem in Opening. You just need to practise and learn more. Sticking to 2. Qh5 will make you weak - others will advance when you'll just still stay at 13 hundreds level.
Or maybe you'd like to stuck. Anyway, enjoy chess.
And one more - if you want aggresive play, then you should start with 1. Nc3 e5 2. d4 and if Black takes 2. ... exd4 3. Qxd4.
Good luck.
I don't pay attention during online chess, I watch tv and I just use it to be doing something, if I sit down and focus I don't hang pieces, I assure you.
ciljettu, you mentioned vienna game, what lines would you recommend? It seems most of these just transpose to the giuoco pianissimo.
The scenario is not inapplicable.A son of a friend wanted to drive his bike and he insisted.So what do you do to a kid that stubbornly refuses to accept a very simple truth?I ask you again , should anyone take that kid seriously?Is that kid saying nonsense when insisting to drive the bike or not?It's exactly what you do.
Your example is completely wrong.Baseball can't be compared with chess and pitchers can't be compared with openings.In chess there is something that is more important than pitchers or openings and that is understanding.Without that you can do nothing.You will continue to be a below average player of an on-line site that will improve extremely slowly.In 5 years from now you will either abandon chess or start accusing others because you didn' improve at all.
It is not opernings you need.Choose a simpe thing play it and it's over.You don't have a style because you don't even know what exactly chess is.You need serious endgame and middle-game study.If you do that , in 2 years you will laugh with your nonsense because you will know , beyond any doubt, that what you today say is indeed nonsense.There is no polite way to say that thing and you don't need to be the greatest player in the world to see it.
Do you need to be the greatest dirver in the world to say to a 4 years old kid that it is nonsense to insist on driving his father's bike?Anyone can say it and will be right about it.Or not?
I wasn't comparing baseball to openings, I was comaring it to principle. Most people believe you should push central pawns, develop knights and bishops, castle, then start looking to attack, or let's say overhand pitching.
Then there are people who believe you should fianchetto bishops, push flank pawns, and undermine the center from the outsides, or sidearm pitchers.
Then there are those who believe "the queen is the best piece, so let's use it". This is matrix chess, whereas the first two were classical and hypermodernism, respectively. Neither is correct, just different from eachother.
Putting Steinitz, Nimzovich and Parham in the same piece of text is an insult for two of the three. I will let you guess names.
Matrix chess has just come around. I'm sure the first time people saw hypermodernism they thought those guys were insane too.
He used his system to become a chess master, it obviously works pretty well...
Lol, I am quite rational, you guys just seem to be arguing with no merit...
In my opinion, the Parham is busted.
That f6 knight is easily pinned, to stop it black must do h6 followed by g5, and ruin their kingside. A strong attacker could easily exlpoit that.
Here is a sample line...The moves might not be sound, but this line makes my point.
move seven would be Nc3
. Gav's totally ignoring comments and keeps repeating the same junk.
@ The_Gavinator
I think the Scotch could be a good fit for you.
Although there is some theory to be studied there as well, the Scotch is much more aggressive than the Ruy Lopez. Often times black gets quickly under pressure if he fails to equalize in the centre. Hope that helps a bit.