Position for black is literally losing everytime with exchange carokann...

I no longer know what to do. With exchange variation, white gets easy positions with deadly strategies. The pawn structure favors white's attacks and black doesn't have any good early pawn-breaks to change it, and e5 is already suicidal as its usually controlled; even if it succeeds,  it gives black a weak pawn.

They castle kingside and setup some annoying obvious one-move attacks which are very hard to block

They castle queenside, lunching a pawn storm. The difference with other openings is that white has lost a center pawn for a flank pawn. That means black's attack on the queenside is going to fail with no compensation in the middle of the board.. Also, kights are liabilities and there is no way to punish white for pins. On the other hand, black needs its dark bishop and if black develops the light bishop, it quickly gets traded, helping white develop or white chases it with pawns, followed by pawn storm.

I wonder if there's anyone who knows the theory. I might be missing some key moves. I also considered scandinavian or russian but it would be great if i could keep up with caro because I like it very much when they advance the pawn and...

All I can say is invest in a few books, get out a board and pieces, and study.

The Caro-Kann is a perfectly sound defense. If you are having problems with the exchange, study it.

I am a French player. For a while, I was having trouble with 1.e4 e6 2.d4 d5 3.Bd3. The solution, put in the hard work and study.

If the Exchange Caro was that strong that Black is busted, nobody would play the Caro. I think Petrosian, Botvinnik, and Karpov disproved that theory that the Exchange Variation refutes the Caro-Kann.

Like ThrillerFan said, the Caro-Kann is a sound defense. The Exchange should actually be one of the easier variations for Black to face.

Do you own any opening books on the Caro-Kann? Most of them devote time to exploring the different Exchange variations, and recommending common ideas for Black ...

Perhaps post some lines that have been giving you trouble, and someone here could give you concrete recommendations.

Your main ideas are to put both knights on c6 and f6, rook on c8, push the 2 queen side pawns to the opponent's pawn, weaken their pawns, then start using your heavy pieces to capture their weak queenside pawns and go into an endgame with a pawn up

Also, put your dark bishop on e7

The ideas are f6 Knight defending the h8 square, if knight gets captured, you want to capture with bishop and put it on g7. If they do a pawn storm, just run to your heavy pieces at the queenside

For queen side caslting, you want to make use of the semi open c file and march your pawns, moving your queen to a5, and sac ur dark bishop for the pawn if moved to a3 and sometimes sac the rook for the knight on c3.

Although he misclicked and resigned, I most likely would have went into an endgame with a passed pawn.

I hoped it helped

Just simply 1) d4 d5 2) c4 e6 3) cxd5 exd5 4) Nc3 c6

we play in a Carlsbad Pawn Structure which is often played by strong GMs and it is not easy etc.

Now simply 1) e4 c6 2) d4 d5 3) exd5 cxd5 4) c3 Nc6

this position will become easy for Black to win because White doesn't play the main line... just be less *** (and of course believing a secondary or tertiary or (...) line would be in theory a winner for White when the main line would be not is even more ridiculous)

The exchange variant is not in theory the strongest variant for White but there is a game to play and even if you are a very strong player you can lose or draw in this position against a strong player.

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"The exchange variant is not in theory the strongest variant for White"

++ Fischer struggled as white against the Caro-Kann, having played the Two Knights Variation, the Panov-Botvinnik Attack, the Classical Variation, the King's Indian Attack against it, but finally he settled on the Exchange Variation:

https://www.chessgames.com/perl/chessgame?gid=1044326

"we play in a Carlsbad Pawn Structure which is often played by strong GMs"
++ Yes that is correct, but black can hold himself in the Carlsbad structure of the Queen's Gambit Declined, so white with his extra tempo has better prospects in the Caro-Kann Exchange.

It sounds like you're experiencing some frustration with the exchange variation of the Caro-Kann defence. It can be a tough position to handle, but with some practice and study, you can find ways to improve your play. Keep at it, and don't get discouraged!

There are some decent videos who talk about the middle game ideas for exchange variation. Perhaps you could watch some of them

Well the Carlsbad pawn structure is basically the 4 pawns on the queenside with 1 on d4, c3, b2 and a2 while for black there is the b7 and a7 pawn

Yeah, thank you. I see you have posted many ideas, I will give them a try. By the way, is it possible to post the links here?

Well said!

This is a random game of me defending in the Exchange Caro-Kann

Exchange gives black one of the most straightforward games. If you both castle short, black goes for "minority attack" which is advancing the a and b pawns to create weaknesses in White's queenside and then capture those weaknesses. If white castles queenside then you use the open c file, advance your a and b pawns, bring your heavy pieces and go for check mate. You can also delay castling a bit. Also never ever play h6 especially in opposite side castling because it gives white a hook. Hope i helped as a fellow Caro Kann player.