Why soo many people hate when white start with pawn d4

actually, i bet you a lot of the people that dont like facing 1.d4 also dont like 1.c4 and 1.nf3 either.

i think this question is not as trivial as people make it out to be.

the thing about 1.d4 that makes it more annoying is that black has less say in forcing the game to his desired structure than agaisnt 1.e4

lets say i play 1.e4 and my opponent replies with a classical french. The only real way white can really push for any substantial opening advantage is to accept blacks invitation and get into a closed position the black player is confortable navigating in. 1.e4 tends to play a lot like where white must yield the flavor of the position to black in exchange for their modest to decent opening advantage.

1.d4 is not quite so yielding. The few kind of lines that force white as much to retain their advantage while yielding to black the game's flavor tend to be a bit more dubious (benoni lines, budapest gambit, etc)., and furthermore, white can often do minor changes in move order to retain a nice edge while limiting blacks options. ( e.g say your opponent really likes the bogo-indian? i can delay c4 )

with 1.e4 , you often want a more tactical game even if slightly, but are usually fully willing to play positional closed games even if it lets you retain the edge, with 1.d4 you get a slower more positional game, where black doesnt really have any GOOD and guaranteed options to make it more tactical.

actually, i bet you a lot of the people that dont like facing 1.d4 also dont like 1.c4 and 1.nf3 either.

1.d4 is not quite so yielding. The few kind of lines that force white as much to retain their advantage while yielding to black the game's flavor tend to be a bit more dubious (benoni lines, budapest gambit, etc)., and furthermore, white can often do minor changes in move order to retain a nice edge while limiting blacks options. ( e.g say your opponent really likes the bogo-indian? i can delay c4 )