Who is ganging up on him ? He gave his simple opinion as to why he thinks this is mean. We gave our opinion as to why we do not think it is mean. Where is the ganging up part ?
“We”? People like you love being anonymous and part of a gang. Sissy
95% of my games, not one word is said by the person I am playing, I have started saying nice game to my opponent when I lose.
I don't think that not accepting a rematch is mean/ rude/ ill-mannered.
What is really bad is saying GG (good game) before the game ends. It is worse than saying that your opponent is a moron.
Would you not consider that maybe something important came up and they could no longer play another game/match?
I'm pretty much convinced of that myself. Also, I think you may find that even the same people that behave rather badly here behave much better on other chess sites. The vibe on chess.com is simply way too confrontational...
Not sure i would claim that declining rematches is a big problem. After all it is just smart. If you play the same person 5 times, after 2 games you will have figured out their ONE opening trap and afterwards they will lose everything. ;-)
But judging from what i see in game chat, i tend to have to agree about the "nasty" part.
I don't even recall the last time someone tried to use the chat for anything else other than insults or ridiculous cheat accusations (i am 1600 rated and play like it, if you think THAT is engine-level accuracy, no one can help you...).
But i have been called all sorts of stuff out of the blue. I have never süpoken a single word with you and your choice for a conversation starter is to call me a racist? Wtf.
Those poor souls who feel the need to put a "ha ha,you stupid" in the chat after they reach a winning position are sadly almost the creme de la creme of chatters on chess.com. By virtue of all other chatters being even more annoying.
I guess in life you'll find every kind of person everywhere you go, mate. Of course I do think some places, fields, communities, etc., do tend to have those people others usually connect to them (specially when unfamiliar with said environments). But I do think that's only natural too. Chess is beautiful and elegant and so forth, so of course it feels great to excel at it! That said, it's no wonder some folks can get really competitive, even childishly over a game. But the game itself doesn't change you into something you're not. I'd find such claim absurd. I for one, am completely sure it just highlights certain aspects of my nature and level of maturity depending on the occasion. And I'm usually an awful, petty and overall annoying person who's really hard to stand at all hahaha
Well unfortunately, people just aren't great sports I guess. If someone let them win all the time when they played, that would most likely explain it cause they can't face reality. And so when they lose, they're rude and arrogant.
yes, you idiot, I was friendly enough to give him a rematch. You won’t understand because you’re mean yourself. You’re of the same ilk as some of the nastiest loud mouths on this site
You see what i mean when i call you a hypocrite? You accuse others of being nasty loud mouth, yet you are the one calling others "idiot" because they tell you their viewpoint which is different from yours. Now, do you understand why i could be forgiven for doubting the capacity AND the honestly of your intellect ?
And, no , you were not "friendly enough to give him a rematch" . If you did what you did with the expectation that he would also give you a rematch, then that was not friendly. That was just an expectation of quid pro quo. A friendly gesture is one which is made WITHOUT any expectations of receiving anything in return. Otherwise it is not different to any other selfish gesture
“We”? People like you love being anonymous and part of a gang. Sissy
Listen up, you moron. Try to think if you have a brain in that thick head of yours. Stop trying to play the victim card , of being "ganged up" on. What else would i use except "we" . DO you want me to type the names of each user who disagreed with you ? If the majority of users disagree with you, that does not mean they are "ganging up" on you. That just means the majority disagree with you. That is natural. That is what happens when you give your opinion. Others may agree or disagree . Just because the majority disagree , does not mean they are ganging up on you. It is okay, for them to disagree with you. It is okay for you to disagree with them. Do not get butthurt , just because you are in the minority on this particular issue.
I resent that. I've been playing chess for decades and I'm not mean or unfriendly. 
I resent that. I've been playing chess for decades and I'm not mean or unfriendly.
Same here fellow chess player
GG is a gesture of sportsmanship when you lose. Saying it at any other time is obnoxious.
This is strange. Saying "good game" to your opponent after you defeat him is a mark of being humble in defeat. That has been true of all sports since ages. After a hard fought game, footballers ( and you can name any sport here ) come together , shake hands and say good game, well played etc. If you take it as a sign of obnoxiousness, that is not what is meant when it is said.
This could be one of the examples of a culture clash. In most sporting cultures, saying "good game" is a sincere remark. Some of the recipients of such a remark might think it is sarcastic , but often times it is not, it means just what it says. He is sincerely meaning "well played" or "nice game"
This is strange. Saying "good game" to your opponent after you defeat him is a mark of being humble in defeat. That has been true of all sports since ages. After a hard fought game, footballers ( and you can name any sport here ) come together , shake hands and say good game, well played etc. If you take it as a sign of obnoxiousness, that is not what is meant when it is said.
Agreed. It's just courtesy, really. And it doesn't make you obnoxious if you say it when you win cause you might really admire the effort the losing opponent put into the game (and we should all admire each other's efforts to learn and become better)
It has everything to do with the "citizen quality" of a place. You almost never run into an opponent from Taiwan or Japan who is nasty (except for foreigners living there) because having manner and being polite in those places are considered very important. But in many other places in the world, being nasty and impolite is the norm, and being in the cyberspace just make things even worse because people don't have to be responsible for their behavior.
yes, you idiot, I was friendly enough to give him a rematch. You won’t understand because you’re mean yourself. You’re of the same ilk as some of the nastiest loud mouths on this site
You see what i mean when i call you a hypocrite? You accuse others of being nasty loud mouth, yet you are the one calling others "idiot" because they tell you their viewpoint which is different from yours. Now, do you understand why i could be forgiven for doubting the capacity AND the honestly of your intellect ?
And, no , you were not "friendly enough to give him a rematch" . If you did what you did with the expectation that he would also give you a rematch, then that was not friendly. That was just an expectation of quid pro quo. A friendly gesture is one which is made WITHOUT any expectations of receiving anything in return. Otherwise it is not different to any other selfish gesture
Let me type slowly, so you with your abysmal intellect can keep up. Exactly, how stupid are you?
Let me educate you. You can dispute my opinions, NOT my FACTS. When I say that I gave him a friendly rematch, that is a fact, not an opinion or a "viewpoint". How the hell can you question my motives, you blithering idiot? You dumb schmo, you do NOT know what an "opinion" or a "viewpoint" is. It is the anonymity of the Internet that allows demented pieces of crap like you to be be aggressive, argumentative, and obnoxious. Basically, just another troll with a VERY wrong idea about his intellectual abilities.
What do you mean you were "kind" enough ? He asked if you want a rematch. You wanted a rematch, so you said Yes. You both got what you wanted. Where is the question of it being a KIND thing . DO you to be treated as the queen of england just because you said yes to a rematch ?
No one forced you to rematch. You accepted a rematch, only because BOTH OF YOU wanted a rematch.
He refused a rematch, when he did not want a rematch.
That is how it is supposed to work.
yes, you idiot, I was friendly enough to give him a rematch. You won’t understand because you’re mean yourself. You’re of the same ilk as some of the nastiest loud mouths on this site