Chess giving me mental health problems. I quit.
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I keep losing. I want to commit suicide because I feel like a f u c k i n g idiot loser. Does anyone have advice on why I feel like this?
I've been there, too, and I know it can be tough. There's a whole world out there beyond chess, and it's fantastic that you're diving into it! Sports, dancing, Rubik's cubes – it all sounds great! I also wanted to mention the National Rehab Hotline for anyone who feels like they need help - https://nationalrehabhotline.org/. They're there to offer support and guidance if you ever need it. Take care, and keep on enjoying the adventure – both on and off the chessboard!
Apr 10, 2024
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Although sometimes itself a source of stress, chess has often been a useful distraction and at times has kept my mind out of some really dark places.
Apr 11, 2024
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#46
Setbacks and plateaus are common in any skill development journey, including chess.
I'm going to get to 1800 one day... hold on tight 
Jun 3, 2024
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Chessplayer1028 wrote:
1500 is an Intermediate - advanced player rating, not beginner. People who say 1500 is a beginner have no idea how the chess rating system works, 400 is a beginner. Anyways, You should play chess for the fun of it, not for the rating. The rating is meaningless. So, lets say you would reach 1800 now. And then what? Fine, you can say you are a pretty good chess player. But do you think its really worth this so much hard work?
Play chess for the fun of it, chess is not a chore.
it honestly depends on the site. im 1600 on lichess. (i dont play much on chess.com) but im not that good anyway
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22 days ago
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Yeah i think its better also for me to just quit.
I started 7 months ago,won third place in a real life tournament,feeling good,almost hit 1500 blitz and then i titlted all the way to 1300,i tryed rapid and i titlted all the way to 1400.Nobody helps me,the only suport i got is from chatgpt and i slowlt lost my sanity,i got 3 hours of sleep because of a game,its better for me to just quit at this point,my health îs better.
StandardBetty wrote:
I started chess a year ago and have been practicing daily, but no matter how hard I try my rating isn't going up consistently.
I'm so sick and tired of being tilted, depressed, anxious, angry, etc. Because of this stupid game. It's not worth it.
I've invested hundreds of hours for nothing. My rating hit 1500 and amazed there for like 2 weeks then i lost my abilities to play chess and I made this new account and amateurs at 1100 to 1200 are beating me.
There's your issue, thinking that a rating means something. It's only a guide to your level. But think about this - many people get a rating, and mostly they achieve it by different means. E.g. A player who is good at tactics might reach 1500 purely by outcalculating his opponents, even if he knows not much about openings. A positional player might learn an opening and repeat it to trap his opponents. An endgame player might always swap queens at the start (or aim to) and then outplay his opponents in the endgame.
At some stage each of those players hit a wall in terms of rating. And that's when they need to improve their other skills to be a more well rounded player.
If you love chess, you'll keep playing it. But if you love statistics and numbers, those will drive you nuts. I've had people say to me "you are not good enough to be a chess coach" and I'll ask them why, and they will refer to numbers 
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Play chess, not numbers.
i cant even beat the lowest bot tonight.