Fear of losing

I advise coming to the realization that rating points naturally fluctuate A TON. You will inevitably lose a lot (not what you want to hear I'm sure xD) and then gain some more later. It is a process of many ups and downs short term (and more often than not, the "downs" are much more severe than the "ups").

Once you accept this fact, then you'll be more inclined to not focus on rating as much. I like to think of it in terms of milestones. Say you reach 1000 rating...that is a milestone that you reached and NOTHING can ever change that fact! True, your rating may drop below 1000 temporarily, but it still doesn't change the fact that you were once there

This process is true for every rating interval - not just 1000. Perhaps your milestones will be in sections of 100 or 200 points (or whatever you decide on), but they are also good goals and things to aim for. Maybe start with 1000, then try for 1100, then 1200 and so on. Next thing you know, you'll be pushing 2000+ rating after several years on chess.com

Fear makes a bad council.

This is an important life lesson that Chess is teaching you! 😄

Playing friends helps. After being in chess for about a year - I've finally built up enough courage to play longer matches with friends I've made, so what you're saying does resonate. Not to get too deep, but you know everything in life constantly changes - so whether you're 1000 or 2500...that anxiety of losing will always remain.

You don't wanna play? Then don't play. Maybe explore different lines with the cpu. I think the most important thing is that you've acknowledged the fear - because it's something that has to be overcome as it more than likely has its hand in other areas.

See, if you keep avoiding - then not only will the anxiety of losing continue to grow but the uncertainty itself will grow as well. There will be no reference point. You have to test your limits and push forward. Hit me up.

I continue to reference this clip of Garry Kasparov where he relates chess to life. The Queen's Gambit got me interested in chess, Garry's Interview on the Lex Podcast made me a believer. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hIYnMlkKe30   <---- check it out 

In your case, this fear seems to be completely unfounded. You are a rapidly improving player. In a year's time, where will you be? You will be at 1600 or 1800 or something, and you won't even remember that a long time ago 1000 Elo felt like a milestone.

Thank you very much :blush :blush :blush :blush :blush

Good post! My goal is increases in 100 so from 1000 to 1100. As we increase and play better players, those players are probably solid 1100 so we might lose a bunch and go back down, there is no straight line up

I don't know how to quote, but KeSetoKaiba and BRYANT43 I played 1400 games on Lichess and I reached 1400 points, because I think people are stronger on chess.com. Now I think I can get better on chess.com. I used to play just 1 or 2 games everyday, with long stop on chess.com, but today I wanna test myself. Thank you so much

@magipi thank you for supporting me

Just realize an online rating has never been, isn't and will never be the exact sign of your strenght just like other people's online ratings don't mean nothing. Just play your best chess and everything will be ok

Took me shamefully long to figure out this simple feature too In my defense, it is fairly disguised - although simple. See the post number (this should be post #12)? Just left of that is a large quotation mark - that is actually a clickable button

Clicking that is how you quote the post. Clicking it will put their post in a gray box within your text box. Then all you have to do is click the white space below the gray and type your comment as usual; voila, that is how to quote

We have all been there or still are, it’s normal. But, you’ll never win if you don’t give it a go. In one sense, on-line is easier, no one knows who you are. You can just move on to the next game. Go for it!

It's online chess. It's worth nothing. Sure it's a little upsetting/frustrating/irritating losing rating points but the thing is. Unless you're the best player in the world there will always be someone who is better than you. Doesn't matter if you're 400 elo, 900, 1200, 1800, 2300 or 2700 rated so your fear doesn't make sense so just overcome it

Thank you KeSetoKaiba but I found out the problem is my smartphone. Now I'm writing on my pc and it work.

Thank you for the advise

Yeah that's the best lesson. Thanks

In all honesty, you win some you lose some that is just how the game works. 

It's very frustrating. I reached 1091 and now down to 1045. Grrrrrrrrr

If you're playing chess purely for an online rating?  Then you're playing for the wrong reason and will never enjoy the game or improve.  A rating is just a number.  It doesnt define you as a person.