Anger

Clearly I need anger management... but does anyone else get really, really mad when they either 

1. Lose a game they clearly had won/drawn

2. Have a completely winning position (i.e. up a queen or something similar) and the opponent doesn't resign. 

#2 gets me so angry that I often end up blowing the position because my concentration is shot and my emotions take over. I find #1 happens way too often as well. I got so mad today, this happened. 

 

How can I stop  blowing clearly won positions? I hate this so much. 

I never trash talk or make arrogant comments to my opponent, that seems like it would just make them drag it out even more instead of resigning. I know whenever someone types "gg" or something before the game is actually over, then I'll drag it out to checkmate when I ordinarily would just resign.

Players like Osfan37 are my favorite types of opponents. The madder they get the better I like it.

Fret not.  Yomama will help you

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It can be an emotion provoking game, just like anything else that's competitive. Wins feel great, but tough losses need time to be shaken off sometimes. When it comes to anger from game results, I think you just need to find a way to reason with yourself. If we make a mistake and mess up a won position, of course it's gonna suck and take a few minutes to shake it off, but it was still a won position. You outplayed your opponent and they only won because of an oversight. Good for them though, the object of the game is to win and take advantage of your opponent's mistakes, no hard feelings, we would all do the same thing. If you think of the positives that occurred during the game that may help to calm you down.
Guys that let their time run and don't resign? Well, it's the internet, don't get upset about things you have no control over.
Winning a won game is something I struggle with. I either attack too much and ignore my own weaknesses, or play safe and boring and let my opponent get counter play. Maybe keeping the pressure on but not overextending will help.

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Anger is an energy...

I think it is quite normal and natural to get angry and frustrated during competitions and games. Personally, I curse and yell. But, after that venting, I cool down very quickly. I find it takes more energy to act as if I am not angry.

If you are not angry after a loss, then you are not trying hard enough. At the same time, it's important, not to let anger take control of oneself. I guess one needs to learn to control and channelize the anger rather than letting anger control you.