In December 2024 I played in an open rapid tournament and everything was going well until round 6 where I was playing against a boy my age. In endgame (it was pawns+rook against pawns+rook, I had more pawns) I had the advantage but I didn't know how to play that endgame... My opponent offers me a draw and I refuse it because I know that I could win. But guess what.... after some time I somehow give a pawn then another then another then... THE ROOK!!! I resigned. If I had accepted the draw I would have got a prize money. I still had one more round, I could still get a prize if I won that game. But I was really upset on me and just couldn't focus on my last round because I was stuck on what happened in the 6th round. So I messed up the game right in the opening and lost. My questions are:
1. How can I control my negative thoughts in a chess tournament? How to get over a loss?
I don't mind losing I can accept my mistakes, but I do mind when I know I could have won that game... or at least could have accepted the draw.
2. What would you recommend me for learning endgames?
P.S. I have a rapid OTB tournament this Saturday and I don't want to repeat my mistakes...
My ratings in rapid are: 2100 online and 1600 FIDE
1. I said in a video that I was never a sore loser, but what I meant was that I was not being negative towards the opponent. But I have been a bad loser, punishing myself for weeks, so I am not the best person to ask.
Maybe keep a mantra that being a chess players inevitably means committing a lot of mistakes.
2. Play long games. Shereshevsky's opening books are also great for understanding.
"And please man tell me how to minimize blunders?"
"Spend time to blundercheck before you make a move."
I actually had another guy say this but it is not the most helpful advice it's sorta like saying to a bigginer in soccer "don't mess up" (I don't wanna be correcting a gm on this tho lol ) a better thing would be something more like what Gotham says checks capturedsa ttacks and look for improving moves and then try to look at what your opponent can do you have to show what to look for not just bad moves