Chess is damaging my mental health.

a war was started in this forum

I was a part of it

I don't know who won, but I think that he's not coming back to this forum

If you look at top elites of chess, they are at least ahead of us by "decades of practice". To improve in any sport, you don't keep playing, you exercise. A Coach will rather make you run many rounds before you kick the ball. 
We all have a great temptation to play, not exercise. The more you develop liking/love for solving tactics, solving elementary to higher levels of endgame positions, the better you will get. Hard work actually means you drained a hell lot of time, still you learnt a few or even nothing.

What do you do to improve? How much time do you put into chess each day? And are you older than 30?

I started playing at around 200 elo, so I do understand the struggle. I strongly suggest you get a membership if you really want to improve, getting access to game review and puzzles is really important. I suggest you learn basic chess principles like controlling the center and how to properly position your pieces. You should also learn some basic openings big for white and black. Above all, play lots of games.

It's like happiness, you can never catch it when you want it.. it's a result of doing things you like. Chess is like that too, dont achieve the success but just chess, learn practise play and have fun.. you gonna get better eventually.

I'm at 100 elo

You’re at 100 elo because you just started

I know but it's still sad

I'm in the mid-700s right now and it's been going up. But I expect it will drop soon since I'm still very new and will make mistakes and lose matches. It's all about expectations. If you are new you are not going to be on a constant upward trajectory. Being good at chess takes years, not months.

I'm back, and @the-wild-child. About your brother and this "war" I read before, just don't talk with mean people. They get in your head and make your life a mess, the only thing he needs is a break and see "characteristics he need to improve", altho in the 1st page on this forum I said something inspirational for him, I hope he read it 📚

skibidi

To anyone trying to improve but not seeing results, remember, chess may look like a mere board game, but is a medium to express ourselves. It is a form of art, misunderstood by many. This game may seem trivial, but in reality teaches us how to face challenges in our lives, and remain resilient. I have been playing for five years now, and chess has taught me how to stay calm in nerve-wracking situations, how to deal with failure and how to keep going no matter what, among many other things.

At the end of the day, you may call it insignificant pixels on a screen or a piece of wood carved into pieces, but according to me, it is a glorious game, teaching one to enjoy the fruit of life.

Bruv.

The reason you can't improve is not because you actually lack the ability to. It's because you think you can't. Each and every person on this planet has the ability to wreak mass destruction and havoc across the earth through various forms of manipulation, yet some of us don't because we choose not to. Likewise, if you really wish to get better at chess, you will. I'm not saying that to put your efforts down, or make you feel like they aren't enough, but to encourage you to give it your all and put more time and thought into it.

Another piece of advice; Your goal is to become better at chess, and you may correct me on this if I am mistaken. This is the wrong goal. You should seek to apply concepts that you find in chess (and various other games) to your own life; you should seek to learn from chess for the gain of your own wisdom and intelligence growth. As you think about the concepts you find in chess more and more often, new ways of thinking about the game will open up. But until you find a higher goal than simply trying to get better at the game, your skill will simply stay the same.

Chess is a hard game. Your first instinct may be to agree with me, but this is a dubious first reaction to what I have just said; instead, your first reaction should be to question, "Why? Why is it such a hard game?" The answer to this question varies with different people; after all, people have different strengths and weaknesses. One person may find chess difficult because of their terrible pattern recognition, and another may find chess difficult because of the memory required to remember why your pieces are synchronized in the way that they are. When you finally pin point your weakness (which can be painful because it requires that you admit that you are flawed), you can find a way to troubleshoot it. Chess is not a first-person shooter game, or a word game, or a puzzle game. It is a thinking game, and I guarantee that if you spend more time thinking about your chess games than you spend actually playing them, then you will primed for success.

All of what I have said requires effort. There are comments, including one by your sister, stating that you received advice and then continued to suggest that you were hopeless, even though you have been given help. If you have watched Star Wars, you may remember the line by Yoda where he says, "There is no try. Only do." This is a rather cliche saying that many people interpret literally; but the message behind it is that you have to stop giving half-hearted attempts. You want to get better at chess? Then do it. And like physical movements such as walking, seeing, or even breathing, this requires energy, and it requires effort. Take a step back and reevaluate how you are going about trying to achieve your goal.

Moral of the story?

Use your brain.

my only advice, get gud

For the record, I'm still 900 elo because I have not invested all that much time into it. I try to prioritize my relationships with my family above most things.