Chess.com etiquette?

When I learned to play chess, I was taught that the person that lost a game should challenge the winner if they were so inclined.  It would be overbearing for the winner to challenge the loser.  

My experience on chess.com is that when I win, I am rarely challenged to another game by my former opponent.  I can assure you that this is not because I am a formidable chess player.  

Therefore, my question is whether or not my learned behavior is reasonable or appropriate for chess.com?    

There is no obligation, or expectation  here, that (if you do not win a game ) you should seek another match with that player.

Often, winners (rather than the loser) will seek to play the same person again.

So don't be fussed.  Just play and enjoy.

I can't imagine it to be anything but reasonable. I sometimes do the same and have got a couple of rematches but mostly no response. I think it's more about the casual nature of online gaming, nothing personal or in error.

maybe the person just had time for one more game.  maybe the phone rang.  maybe someone knocked on the door.  maybe their computer blue screened.

i wouldn't expect rematches on the net; if everyone who lost rematched, nobody would play other people.  :D

Or maybe the other person wants to play a variety of opponents.  Playing the same person over and over can be boring.  Especially if they have a narrow repertoire.

Sometimes when I lose, especially close games, I will want a rematch, if not only to redeem myself. Then if I win 2nd game, I will go for the 2 out of 3.

It's a little annoying when I'm playing CM s******9, and he's much better than me so he wins several games in a row, offering rematches after each win. Then as soon as I win a game he's out of chat before I even have a chance to think about a rematch. I suppose it could be considered smart, avoiding a psychological disadvantage.

Drop your load on us Flags.

is that the guy who pilot of the Enterprise ?

Close, he was one of the main guys, but actually I don't know what his job was heh.

Whenever you learn a manorisum, you cant expect the whole world to have learnt and adopted the same etiquette. Unfortunatly. 

Thanks for the comments.  I guess I had unrealistic expectations.  :/

I think your being much too sensitive. Enjoy the experience of playing lots of different players and if someone doesn't want to play you, don't take it to heart!

if they dont want to play you again just hit new game. theres tons of ppl out there. we only live so long. if u want some one to match you i will play a  bunch. im always up for making new friends.

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